I'm always curious about this. Not one person I know says they would be okay with one of their children having to help them with toileting, walking, etc. when they're older. I don't have kids so I don't know what the usual thinking is on this with parents.
Do any of you expect your kids to give you this level of care?
And "well they changed my diaper for me when I was a baby, I owe it to them" just kind of sounds like it's transactional care and guilt talking. But is that how people actually do feel about it?
Thanks for the insights, in advance :)
I'm hating caring for my mom like a child but we don't have a choice, If there was no virus, I'd have hired an p/t aide for my mom but we still worry about Omicron even tho' we are all vaccinated & boosted. Money is also an issue. I'm mentally always on for mom & I'd never inflict this on my children.
We never planned to have our kids care for us and luckily, saved and invested so that will not happen. We'll 'age out' in our home or move to an ALF.
Gosh, my kids didn't even help when I went through cancer. (I knew if I reached out to them, they would have come, but chose not to).
Every family is different and multigenerational living works beautifully for some families, it's a hot mess for others.