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I know cops that ticket every mom who doesn’t take the time to buckle their kids up. They are good cops.

My oldest daughter tried to get out of buckling up. Kids wouldn’t be kids if they didn’t try. She was excited to get to the playground. It is up to us not to let them get away with it!

I told my daughter that the wheels didn’t turn if she wasn’t buckled up! LOL 😆

Well, one day my dad tried to get away without buckling up. My three year old from the back seat says, “Grandpa! You have to buckle up or the wheels won’t turn. My dad looked at me and said, “Is that what you told her? That’s brilliant! I guess I better buckle up!

I realize that it’s harder to control your dad in this situation. It’s sad and dangerous for everyone who is on the road around him.

The cop who flagged down your dad screwed up!
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I wonder how that same police officer would feel if he was called to the scene of an accident involving your father and the driver of the other car was killed. That police officer did not do your dad any favors by not giving him a ticket. Very irresponsible of him. Maybe show your dad a bunch of articles about senior drivers who have killed people because they refused to stop driving. Would that change his mind? I don't know. Maybe, maybe not.
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Calliesma Mar 23, 2024
I'm not really sure if the suggestion to reason is feasible. In my experience, those with dementia feel completely normal and are concerned about the eroding world around them if they're concerned with anything. The suggestions of not programming keys, hiding keys, waiting so long, driving becomes an impossibility... etc. are the best tactics- that, and getting the police to react more quickly...
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Wow, that police officer didn’t do him any favors by letting him off the hook. I am with you, I would rather see your dad get a ticket.

Oh my gosh, I don’t park in a handicap zone and I pull over immediately when I hear sirens. A person’s life depends upon getting them to the hospital in time.

I am sorry that you are dealing with this situation. It is frightening to think about your dad being hurt and him causing others to be hurt or worse, die!

The last time I said that when people hit a certain age they should be required to take a driving test I was accused of ageism! I don’t care what anyone accuses me of I still believe that people should be tested annually or maybe more frequently!
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Calliesma Mar 23, 2024
Dementia goes so quickly- my mom "hit the age of testing," and drove like a pro. Two years later, she can't remember how to pull the keys out. I wish that concerned family members could request that driver's test trigger and that the test would then happen quickly.
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I'd go find his car in the parking lot and remove the spark plugs if this were my father.
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Calliesma Mar 23, 2024
Yes, this is important. Is there any way you could make a video showing the process of disabling a car for an elderly loved one and post it here?
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Voluntarily? No, not without a therapeutic fib like, They said you can't drive until you take a retest (then do not remind him of this appointment, do not take him.)

Does he have a PoA? If so, this person needs to be dealing with this. If he has no PoA then... good luck.
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There is nothing you can do if the police themselves chose to do nothing about a clearly impaired driver.
Take him for this test at the DMV sooner rather than later, and tell them about this report, asking that a driving test be done as well as written and eye exam.
Other than reporting your Dad to the DMV there is little that you can do.
My brother had a serious accident before he gave up the driving; happily only HE was seriously injured, and not others.
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Geaton777 Mar 20, 2024
Alva, although i wish it were possible, you don't get to tell the DMV what tests to give another citizen. Plus, i wouldn't run the risk of him taking the test and passing, which he might.
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