I've not really seen this question but somebody might have already asked so if they did and I didn't see it, I'm sorry.
How do y'all deal in situations where your elderly relatives just say really mean things to people? Like for example if they tell the cancer center staff that they're fat or people in the store that they're ugly or other just mean/rude things?
I feel like I have to explain the whole situation every time, but I don't know that it does anything and it's really embarrassing. The medical staff has probably heard worse but the average people are really offended, like anyone would be when someone says something offensive to them out of the blue.
Sometimes the anxiety from the embarrassment is that, "just crawl in a hole and die," level and it's just... I don't know, it's a really bad feeling, but I feel like this has to be a pretty common thing, so if anyone has advice for how to handle it I would really appreciate it.
Often strangers can't tell that there's anything wrong with her mind so they just take it at face value.
piece of paper In your pocket that says “ please forgive her, she has Alzheimer’s/ dementia” and quietly show it to them when she’s not looking. It works.