My mother has dementia. I am single and living with her. My brother stopped speaking to her (and me) several years ago so I am the sole caregiver. Sometimes she knows she is confused and gets upset because "things aren't right in her head." Tonight she said that she feels like she doesn't have a purpose. I now realize that by doing things for her is contributing to that, but she can't remember how to do things, can't find things, etc. I'm trying to think of meaningful activities for her to do. Does anyone have any suggestions? We live in a small town and do not have any day-care services available.
Mentally, she is always much sharper on days when she is active.
Try something simple, like folding laundry. That may also give her a sense of purpose. I've also asked Mom to straighten out disorganized drawers in the kitchen. You'll have to try to judge what activities she's going to be able to do without too much frustration. But I think the key is that it makes her feel as if she's contributing to the household.
Any thing she is physically able to do, she can do with your patient guidance. So important for them to feel purposeful. Especially if they feel they are helping and contributing.
It is good that you care. May God bless!