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At age 95 My mother was living by herself in her own townhome. She had lived by herself since she was 68. Although she was very independent, it was a worry of mine. Although I gave her an alert device to wear, she didn't always do so. I had the two neighbors on either side of her, keep an eye out - did she pick up her paper? Her mail? We also set it up so that she would call me every day in the morning to at least say or leave me a message that she was o.k. We didn't have to chat - she could just leave a message.

At 95, the ultimate happened. She called that morning and left message. Around lunch time She was getting out of her recliner, got her feet twisted up in the blanket she was using to keep warm, and fell, breaking her femur at the hip replacement site. Fortunately, she had the alert device on her that day and was able to activate it to get help. Otherwise, she would have laid there on the floor for who knows how long.
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Tell her "if you wear this apple watch, I will stop calling you so much. I just need to know that you're okay because if you fall, it could be a long time, maybe even days, before somebody finds you. If you fall and get hurt, you likely will never get to live in this house again. If you want Independence, that's great, but just wear the alert device."
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What will happen will happen. That appears to be her mindset. You’ve warned her and expressed concern, but she doesn’t seem to care. So maybe just give up. As an ER doctor told me in the ER when I was there with a family member, “Older people sometimes get so strange, don’t they?” Yup.
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My mother had a fall alert device, but didn't wear it when she showered. She hadn't yet put it back on when she had a dizzy spell and couldn't get up from the floor (she didn't fall on the floor, but must have been bending over and had to sit down on the floor). It took her a half hour to manage to crawl over to the phone to call me. After that, she always wore the fall alert device.

My mil (age 89) refuses to wear one. She lives by herself in a 2-story house on 40 acres, miles from town, with steep, not-to-current-code stairs. The stairs have things on them. There is only a half-bath downstairs. She has mobility problems and has fallen twice in the past, not knowing what happened.

Her two local daughters keep in contact with her. Still, though, she could fall and lie for hours if she wasn't conscious and didn't have her cell phone on her or couldn't use it. She has said she will have to be carried out of the house someday, and will not live elsewhere. (When she fell and hurt her shoulder a few years ago, she did go to live with one of her daughters for 7 weeks because she needed so much help.)
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