Mom finally agreed I could look at assisted living facilities to see what she can afford. She has no assets left as her son borrowed against her house and then lost it to foreclosure. I checked with 17 different facilities and found 1 that she can afford but looks like a hospital and is unlicensed. The only other possibility is Masonic assistance at the state masonic home. (Both of which she will reject but she MUST choose something within her means) Even at 94 she does not qualify for medicaid and is already receiving Veterans benefits. I was hoping to find a place that she could remain in rather than having to move her twice or more. I have her power of attorney but am told I still cannot force her to do something she does not want to do. The way to force the issue is to refuse to supplement her income and with my husband retiring in May - I myself will be on a fixed income.
GOD grant us cooperative parents, for their sake as well as ours.