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I’m not certain the details of what you’re asking but it seems like you’re feeling what I’m feeling. I can no longer care for my grandma. In September it will be year that I haven’t left my house for more than a few hours. At first I had helpers but there was always an issue. Now I am tethered. I think I found an AL that allows for one pet and takes Medicaid. I’m going to visit this week. I have no idea how I am going to bring this up to her, so.... I am REALLY hoping the concerns I present to her Dr. are accepted and that she will be supportive of it in front of my grandma and document that support.
I hope that you get a break soon. It’s awful to be confined. I was in your situation for many years. Have you contacted Council on Aging for help? I recommend doing so. They do a needs assessment and if the senior qualifies they will send out help. It’s only a few hours a month but it helps some.
You simply say that you can no longer care for your mom. You have done your part. Now it’s time for others to step in.
Ask your mom’s doctor or nurse (nurses are sometimes more empathetic) for a contact number for a social worker to help plan for your mom’s future. The social worker will answer your questions and address any concerns that you have. They will be able to tell you what options are available for your mom’s care and guide you in a suitable direction.
You don’t have to convince anyone on this forum that caregiving isn’t a tough job. It’s the toughest job that I ever had!
Seems u have a full plate. You need to tell the doctor you can no longer take care of her that she needs to be placed in LTC and you need him to sign off on it. That ur husband is your main priority now.
Apply for Medicaid if she has no money and get her into a nice NH. Its no longer what "she" wants but what she needs and u too.
You don't convince him. He doesn't need to be convinced. You TELL HIM you cannot supply the needs of your Mom and you don't INTEND to do so. It is utterly none of his business.
Why does the Dr. need to be convinced? If mom needs more help than you can offer then that is fact. Are you wanting her to be placed somewhere? You can have a needs assessment done by your local Adult Social Services, and they will have social workers that will help you take it from there. And if I'm not understanding your question properly, then you can make a list of everything that is going on with your mom, and send it to her Dr. via the patient portal, so he/she has a better picture of what is going on with her. Best wishes.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Or consider placement for her in a facility.
Ask your mom’s doctor or nurse (nurses are sometimes more empathetic) for a contact number for a social worker to help plan for your mom’s future. The social worker will answer your questions and address any concerns that you have. They will be able to tell you what options are available for your mom’s care and guide you in a suitable direction.
You don’t have to convince anyone on this forum that caregiving isn’t a tough job. It’s the toughest job that I ever had!
Have you decided it's time for change? Are you wanting the Doctor to force the direction?
Seems u have a full plate. You need to tell the doctor you can no longer take care of her that she needs to be placed in LTC and you need him to sign off on it. That ur husband is your main priority now.
Apply for Medicaid if she has no money and get her into a nice NH. Its no longer what "she" wants but what she needs and u too.
And if I'm not understanding your question properly, then you can make a list of everything that is going on with your mom, and send it to her Dr. via the patient portal, so he/she has a better picture of what is going on with her. Best wishes.