I’m 24 and I take care of both my elderly parents. Between both of them, their doctor appointments & physical therapy appointments fill up my calendar. They have appointments five days out of the week.
This has been going on for two years already. The elderly services in my state only provide transportation if the individual can transfer from vehicles on their own.
How do other caregivers manage multiple appointments every week?
Anyway, I was surprised at the gaps there were at the ALF. But know that there are ways to work with these systems, and professionals who do this all day long who can help you through. I did not take advantage of them soon enough in our process, and wasted time and money, not to mention the stress. I think I was in freeze mode and just overwhelmed.
In my experience, having financial power of attorney has been even stickier. Just a heads up to be careful before you sign these types of legal documents. You are my daughter’s age, and I am deeply saddened you have been put in this position. You sound like a very strong young lady.
Same w/ PT. Why can't they come to home?
Dental, wow, getting all of that dental work, you have to decide if it's really necessary.
I think some appointments can be trimmed down. You can do that, decide what's really important and ditch the rest.
You need to be going to work at your age and earning. If your parents are so debilitated and elderly (though I don't see how that's biologically possible if you're only 24) that they have doctor's appointments daily and they can't get out of a car on their own, they should be in a nursing home. Or with a live-in caregiver in their home.
Have a meeting with your family to discuss what plans need to be made for your parents. You need to get a job and provide for yourself. This can't happen if you're being an unpaid 24/7 caregiver to your parents.
Someone needs to have POA or conservatorship over your parents. I would suggest the court appoints a conservator for them that is not you. You're too young at 24 to take that on and you need to start making your own life and your own living. Unless you're married or wealthy no one is going to provide for you if they die and if they're as sick as you say, that could become a reality soon enough. Your siblings sure aren't going to help.
Talk to APS and tell them about your situation and that you're leaving. They will start the state petition for conservatorship.