Hi,
My mom is 92, has later stage dementia, but physically pretty healthy. Being treated right now by a home health nurse for a bedsore, which is healing nicely. I have not met the nurse, but I have phone conversations and, frankly, don't like her. I don't think I'm hypersensitive, but she just sounds like an overbearing busybody trying to interject her agency into providing all sorts of other services just to get her claws into us, aka, make money. Sorry if this sounds unhinged, but I believe in less medical intervention than more. I'm not in denial regarding my mom's situation, but I know her and what works best for her. I feel the nurse is looking for ways to point out things we aren't doing so she can interject why we need hospice and her agency's services. I get the "ideal," but she doesn't seem to get we are working with a person with dementia and that all bets are off. Again, not looking for specific suggestions, maybe just feedback. Have you ever felt you were in a battle of wills with someone involved in the care of your loved one?
I live in a small town. Our Homecare agency is affilated with a Hospital. They can suggest their services but until an actual eval and Medicare approval nothing they can do.
I have never had a problem with people who come from our HC. Mom had PT and OT in my home. When they mentioned they would be here at 8 am in the morning, I asked that it be 10am or after because I needed to get Mom up, dressed and breakfast before they came. They accommodated me. PT showed Mom how to use her walker.
Now my Dad. He had a therapist that walked into the house and told him "Mr. E this is what you are going to do" my Dad "no woman is going to tell me what to do". Not my Dads first rodeo and the woman hadn't even evaluated him to see what hevwas capable of. Mom said she came on a little on the strong side. She was replaced.
I worked with visiting RNs. The head nurse was always saying the nurses were going into peoples homes. You did what you needed to care for them, visit if u have time but...keep your personal opinions to yourself.