I've listened to my 94 yr old mother's crazy talk for long enough. Today, I snapped and told her she is imaging these things -- she is hallucinating -- they are not happening in real life. She is now accusing my brother-in-law of breaking into her apartment every night (she SEES him) and stealing anything from her dishwashing detergent to her reading glasses. And he's stealing her mail. And groceries. Now I've tipped her off that we all think she's demented (without using the word, I think I might have said "crazy", yikes). How will we ever get her to realize that Doug (son in law) is not committing these crimes, and that she in fact is in need of help? We've got to get her out of I.L. and into some sort of assisted situation. I'm just shaking, and I realize I just lit the fuse to a huge explosion.
repeat when you have to move her to Memory Care if you have to.
A side note if the Hallucinations are new or more common you might want to schedule a visit with her Doctor to discuss this and the anxiety that goes with it. The hallucinations might be an indication of other problems.
Give yourself a break. She won’t remember. She will scream at me one minute and everything is ok the next.
I cannot afford to put her into a nursing home, like most people say just put her in a home. It’s not always possible.
When you know you are doing all you can then give yourself credit for doing that.
1 - she might not remember - THEN IGNORE THE WHOLE SITUATION - if she can't remember a confrontation like that she needs to be supervised 100% of time
2 - people who see things can be a danger to themselves & others - make sure there are no guns etc that she can get hold of - she may try to 'fix' her problem with BIL by shooting him - or do something to start a fire etc
3 - she needs to be cared for by professionals A.S.A.P. - some meds may help
4 - if mom is 94 then you are probably in your 60's or older - this is a lot at this age - I'm 69 taking care of 92 year old mom who is in an NH - so start looking at you, hubby, BIL, etc - what are all those health issues + mom=stress - that is probably bad overview - get mom secured in an appropriate facility now to relieve the stress on the rest of you