I have worked for my little lady who has Alzheimer's for over 4 years. She has declined drastically. Her elderly husband still works daily and I'm there 9 1/2 hours a day. I love this little couple and care for the lady like she is my own from head to toe: fix hair, dye hair, nails, toenails, shower 3 times a week. We grocery shop on her good days. I clean and cook. Sometimes I drive her around & listen to her favorite music to change her mood. The problem is, she has become increasingly violent and for an elderly woman is very strong. Last week she slapped me across the face. I know it's the disease but still very upsetting. When she is upset for long periods of time with no explanation, she is usually diagnosed with an infection but her temper is a weekly occurence usually when dressing and showering which I realize can be normal.
I have been offered from a previous employer another caregiving job which as far as money goes, I cant refuse: 29 less hours but $1000 more per month. I have always been and am on excellent terms with this family but the violence (and daily bed wetting) has made me want to leave for a long time. I have read that I shouldn't give excuses for leaving but also feel they need to know the extent of her mood swings and violent behavior. She has taken pics off the wall and thrown them. She has hit the dog. They refuse to medicate her. I reported to the nurse her behavior and nurse is reporting to physician. The money is a huge reason I'm leaving because I have to take care of my own family. My new client has his mind and it has been agreed that I will never have to bathe him.
What is the most painless way to leave a job & why do I feel so bad for leaving them?
I realize that caregivers are replaceable but have developed a relationship with this family.
UTI's can muck up the brain... They need to know this... You may already know this, you expressed here that she has infection ... so it may be caused by UTI's...
MIL would go nuts... But the main reason.. you are leaving... $$$$$$
Agreed I will never have to bathe him... How long is that til? How old is he? When do the UTI's begin? How old is he? Aging is different from one to another....
Tell your current emplyer the truth: Ma is too much for me to handle at the moment. I love her very much, but my family comes first. Please have her vitals checked especially for UTI...
The lady you're taken care of is getting violent causing you to not like your job. And it just so happens that another job, a better job, presents itself to you.
I'd say, the signs are there. Make your move. How to let the current family know? You can tell them the reason for quitting is the violent behavior and that you have already accepted another offer, so there's no changing your mind, in case they want to talk you out of it.
Congratulations and good luck.
You should address the increase in your client's needs as a separate letter and do it as a courtesy because you are not aware if they understand how things have progressed.
You don't need an excuse to leave a job that makes you feel like you do. I am done as of 2 weeks is sufficient. Obviously with courtesy and diplomacy.
You feel bad for leaving because you've given a lot to these people. But, it's just a job and you must do what's best for you.