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At this point it is very important that you get the help you need. You need to get your mother places as soon as possible and get yourself into the hospital for the treatment your doctor says is important for your mental health.
I would view this as an emergency. Talk to your mom's doctor and explain that you need hospitalization and are no longer able to care for your mom. Ask him which nursing home he would recommend for your mom and see if he can help you to get her placed quickly.
If it makes you feel better, tell your mom that her placement may be temporary while you get the care you need and can get back on your feet. Maybe that will make dealing with her easier. Just do what you have to so you can start to focus on yourself and get well.
Once you are better, you can take time to see if a better facility exists in your area for your mom. You can transfer her then, should you want to do so. Please know that your mom may not be happy regardless of where she is and there is nothing you can do about that.
Please make yourself a priority and get the help you need. Love and Hugs, Cattails
tinylene11, I think that you do know what to do. Place your mother in a nursing home, and then focus your energy on getting well yourself. There is a way out. Really! And you deserve your chance at health and happiness.
You know what to do, and your mother can afford it, so why isn't it happening? I'll bet you are not feeling strong enough to make all the decisions and preparations and handle the move. Is that it?
If your mother has a case worker (who evaluated her needs for Medicaid, for example) call that person. If you do not know of a case worker, call Social Services in your mother's county. Explain that you are going to be hospitalized for severe depression, you are unable to care for your mother who has dementia, and you need immediate help to have her placed in a nursing home.
Another source of help might be at the hospital your doctor wants you to be in. Call and talk to the social worker there. Explain that you are going to be admitted but some arrangements have to be made for your mother.
There is a way out. There are people who can help you. Can you hang in there long enough to call someone to notify that you are unable to care for Mother and other arrangements need to be made? Then please, please, do what you need to do for your own health.
I seem that there is no place where she is happy. I have lossed my job, had 3 car accident, no family help, my doctor want me to go into the hospital for severe depression, my mother keep telling me she wants to die and take me with her, etc. I dont know what to do I am feeling as if my head is going to explot. My brain is just giving up. I feel like there is no way out.
If your mother needs a nursing home and can afford it (with Medicaid) what is the issue? Do you need help selecting one? Are other family members opposed? Is she opposed? What are her impairments.
Explain the situation a little, so we'll know what kind of help you are seeking.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I would view this as an emergency. Talk to your mom's doctor and explain that you need hospitalization and are no longer able to care for your mom. Ask him which nursing home he would recommend for your mom and see if he can help you to get her placed quickly.
If it makes you feel better, tell your mom that her placement may be temporary while you get the care you need and can get back on your feet. Maybe that will make dealing with her easier. Just do what you have to so you can start to focus on yourself and get well.
Once you are better, you can take time to see if a better facility exists in your area for your mom. You can transfer her then, should you want to do so. Please know that your mom may not be happy regardless of where she is and there is nothing you can do about that.
Please make yourself a priority and get the help you need. Love and Hugs, Cattails
You know what to do, and your mother can afford it, so why isn't it happening? I'll bet you are not feeling strong enough to make all the decisions and preparations and handle the move. Is that it?
If your mother has a case worker (who evaluated her needs for Medicaid, for example) call that person. If you do not know of a case worker, call Social Services in your mother's county. Explain that you are going to be hospitalized for severe depression, you are unable to care for your mother who has dementia, and you need immediate help to have her placed in a nursing home.
Another source of help might be at the hospital your doctor wants you to be in. Call and talk to the social worker there. Explain that you are going to be admitted but some arrangements have to be made for your mother.
There is a way out. There are people who can help you. Can you hang in there long enough to call someone to notify that you are unable to care for Mother and other arrangements need to be made? Then please, please, do what you need to do for your own health.
Explain the situation a little, so we'll know what kind of help you are seeking.