He and my daughter never got along. He left one day after 15 years and we divorced. The divorce was messy and emotional. She considered his conservative parenting style abusive but he never touched her. She was able to go to private school and have an upper middle class raising thanks to his help.I never had anyone else after him because I never stopped loving him. We recently reconnected and he is alone and in poor health. We are both working through that part of our lives healing and getting closure. Though the eyes of seniors now, he is 77 I am 70, we have found that we still love each other and I want to be there for his upcoming surgery. Seems forgiving him has made room in my heart to be able to do that. She has melted down giving me all kinds of ultimatums and it's breaking my heart. Any advice out there.
I side with your daughter. He is using you because you are the one person he was able to dig up.
IMO a health crisis is not the time to decide whether to get back together or not with an ex .
He left one day and you had a messy divorce . Your daughter considered him abusive . Abuse isn’t just “ touching “.
He may be back in the picture now because he needs a caregiver . There are a lot of red flags here that you are not seeing .
Your daughter seems wiser than you about what kind of man your ex is .