Quad heart bypass. Bi-Lat femoral arterial bioassay-stil smokes. Cardiologist says "don't fight this battle". He wants a cigarette about every two hours. Non-insulin diabetes but run sigh blood sugars. Candy demands, ice cream demands, green grapes, oranges, etc. "don't worry, just give them whatever they want". He's 83 - is this the way to play this? The alternative is constant arguing-trying to re-direct, offer alternatives. Help!
I suggest it is time to start getting things in order for a memory care or nursing home.
It may become too difficult for you to handle. My father had dementia, lived alone, and at Christmas came to a family Christmas Eve party with a machete strapped to his waist.
Finally in April we had to place him in a nursing home because none of us could get him to do anything-not bathe, not stop buying things, not pay his bills. He got moreand more delusional and paranoid, needed medication to reduce his fear and anxiety.
There are ways to protect some assets and still get Medicaid for long term care.
I hope you are able to get some things done as it only gets more bizarre and complicated. You have to take care of yourself too.
Hugs
Family history is so important - I went to university with a guy who said that no male in 5 generations had lived past 52 [all heart problems] - he wasn't going to do any pension but was hoping to be shot in bed by a jealous husband - not the greatest long term profile - I always hoped that he would have a minor procedure & be proven wrong [given how medical progress has gone now a days ... because wouldn't that proven him wrong]
When I was first diagnosed, I picked up a sugar free candy and the same brand's regular candy, and took them to my next session with a certified diabetes educator. I asked which would be better for me. She read the labels and laughed. Well, the sugar-free is more expensive so maybe that would encourage you to eat less. But the sweetner in the sugar-free gives many people diarrhea. She said she'd pick the regular one, but limit how many to eat.
Planning some treats into one's diet is not "cheating." It is making intelligent choices.
John 14:1-4 “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. And you know the way to where I am going.
Charlotte