Follow
Share
Read More
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Find Care & Housing
5 6 7 8 9
I was told by the hospice nurse when my Dad was there for one week that some family members choose not to be there when their loved one passes. They simply are just "run down" as they say and cannot bear to watch them die. That alone made me feel okay. When my Dad reached a certain stage, I began to back off a little due to anxiety attacks. I saw that Dad was sedated with morphine and he did not squeeze my hand nor did he look at me. He was definitely kept comfortable. I came home but a relative sat with him overnight at hospice and the next morning the nurse called to say he only had a very short time. I got dressed and left for hospice with a horrible dread! My Dad passed away while I was on my way there. His minister was there with him even though Dad was not with it at all. I did not want to see my Dad die. I am glad I did not put myself through that now. It was alright since we could not talk anyway and he was sedated. Many people make this choice. Don't feel that you HAVE to be there. You have to take care of yourself too. By the way, my mother is in assisted living now due to her condition. She finally spent her money down on home caregivers and she was in very bad shape plus she lost her eyesight on top of everything else (dementia). I go to sit and visit with my mother but I have backed off a little on that. I ended up in the cardiologist's office and it was due to stress. I was told by the doctor and my friends to take care of myself too and just be sure Mom is being taken care of properly. Give yourself a break and don't feel badly at all if you decide not to be there when your Mom passes. We all have our limitations.
Helpful Answer (17)
Report

I understand you 100% . Very similar thing happened to me. I am using the services of hospice to try to get over this. I wish you all the luck in the world.
Helpful Answer (9)
Report

5 6 7 8 9
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter