.... forgot her walker and fell in the hall, got a goose egg on the back of her head, no other injuries. The medics came but she refused to go to ER. By the time I got to her AL she seemed fine and had an ice pack on and seem to like all the attention.
She has had many TIAs, I recently had her at the neurologist and he ordered a wheelchair because of fall risk...hopefully we will get today.
I'm worried about this bump on the head..like can that bring on more TIAs, bigger stroke, etc?
FOG is nagging at me!!
She has hand tremors, leaning forward, shuffle gait, shaking voice and sometimes no symptoms.
Mom didn't seem bothered by the "visit" from the PT the other day...only said she believes she'll just rest for several days. I didn't mention a word about it either other than agree with her to rest...and yea, to watch the Royal Wedding AND Fox News. I'll be hearing about that wedding for several months I bet.
Her MRI mentioned "possible" Binswangers disease, a form of vascular dementia. Anyone heard of this?
Taking him to the hospital didn't help him. Everything wasn't fine. My dad was on Warfarin that caused a Subdural Hematoma about 10 days after his fall. I took him to the hospital because I didn't like the way he was speaking. I would have liked the hospital to let me know that there was a chance of getting a Subdural Hematoma while on a blood thinner. I don't know if the hematoma was caught sooner if there would have been less damage. Keep an eye on loved ones.
I am glad that you realize that you now have a "new Mom" and that she will make up stories and lie to you. As you stated "new journey, new mom, and I'm shifting to be her mother now". It is not easy and there will be many times that she sounds so truthful and believable. Now you know to take a deep breathe, relax and investigate the situation before reacting.
Depending on who is paying for the wheelchair--Medicare or private pay-- it can take 1-2 weeks before a wheelchair is delivered so I wouldn't get so bent out of shape because a wheelchair ordered on Monday hasn't arrived on Friday.
You need to take care of yourself also. You sound so nervous and anxious and stressed-out that if you do not start to slow down and relax, you will end up with health problems also (and if you have health problems, they just might get worse). Take time for yourself so that you can be there when your Mom needs you the most. God Bless.
((((Hugs))))))
Hmmm, new journey, new mom, and I'm shifting to be her mother now... and not believing a word she tells me even when she sounds truthful. How do you know when to believe stuff and not !?!
The therapist thought she only had two small TIA's and when I told her she's had numerous ones in the last two years she was like, "oh my your mom had me fooled too!" I apologized up and down to this poor girl and she was very very kind to me.
Whew, What an experience !
Her wheelchair got ordered Monday and still no sign of it, so here goes another phone call today just like the last two days...this is crazy.
Any suggestions on how to talk to my mom about the storyline with the therapist yesterday ? I know if I tell her no MOM you lied or whatever that will make her upset and even last night on the phone she said I could've got my story mixed up,
It's so sad because she knows she's losing it and she's losing control of her life, it seems she can be so good one minute and then next stop the next it's so hard to see.
My dad lives at this assisted-living too...they've been divorced for over 40 years, they use to keep great distance between one another...now they have become great friends and he tries to take care of her just like a mother hen😬 He also walks with a walker with the seat on it whatever it's called and is legally blind so the two of them together is kind a like a circus act 😉
And if she went willingly and allowed an MRI or scan of her head and they said "I think you can expect more TIAs" what would you do? What could they do?
I'm glad you are feeling a little better about the incident now. I do understand the overwhelming feeling of responsibility for a loved one. But try to save your guilty tears for things you actually have some control over. You could not force her to go to ER. You cannot change her risk levels for future medical events.
Did you ask her what treatment she thought they'd prescribe?
I need to stay strong and believe I am doing the best I can and quit self doubting myself UGG
You all calmed my heavy aching heart. I have been crying bucket loads of tears all morning. When a trip to ER was mentioned, my first thought was remembering everything I have read on here about that, just like you all have you just said. It's so hard watching her fail every day and then get a little better and go backwards again I just have to know I'm doing what's right for her.
Thank you all so much 😭😢😟😘😊☺️ All these emotions have wore me out but I'm very grateful for you all and feel so much better 😍
Big big hugs and smiles I hope your day is beautiful 💜
My mother has said no more ER trips for her "dizzy" spells (last one was more concerning, as she had some of the symptoms of a stroke; this was the last time she went to the ER, and now she says no more). The option of urgent care isn't even appropriate, as these events always occur in the evenings. (And then of course you know she's there for hours and hours, and we end up leaving the ER in the middle of the night. Yawnnn.....)
But think it through. Number one, you called for assistance immediately. Number two, your mother didn't want to go to the ER. Number three, you watched her closely and if you'd observed the slightest thing you would have acted on it. Number four, even if she had gone to the ER, what would they have done that didn't happen anyway? Number five, sitting in the ER for a couple of hours would have exposed her to infection, not to mention the stress and fatigue of being in such a noisy, brightly lit, confusing environment. Number six, supposing they had rushed her into a scan of some sort, what would they have done about anything they might have found? Number seven, the overwhelming probability is that a scan would have turned up no information but exposed mother to a large and needless dose of radiation...
There was NO good reason to override your mother's preference and take her to the ER.
I know that doesn't stop you feeling guilty. But it does make the decision correct!
I'd think that the stress of the ER might do more damage than good at this point.
If she'd had another TIA, would there be a treatment for that? Is she already on blood thinners to prevent stroke?
I would consult with the neurologist by phone if you are worried.