I'm starting to feel the judgement of others of how i'm handling this caregiving chore. They think I should walk away or wonder how I do it, but what are my choices. I don't see anyone stepping in to help or even staying engaged. They have no idea of what emotional toll it is taking.
My mother was the pioneer in this family.Took in nephews,nieces,all the family that live in the US now.
Do you think they have ever called me or even bother to visit.Those are the first ones to be at the funeral.
I truly believe that mom won't need me at her funeral.Its all over by then and she had me when she needed me and had diaper rash.
Satin 2 ribbons,I know how it feels to be angry. I noticed it was eating me up and affecting my health and I let it go and gave it to God.I can't afford to be walking around all day angry when I need my strength to take care of my mom.
I know it is not easy,especially when you have seen how wonderful she was with every family member and how much she cared to buy gifts for the holidays.
I know one day we will be old also and what goes around comes around.We can't forget we age too and those that don't truly care will have their compensation when they see themselves in a nursing home and no one goes to visit.I do not wish this upon anyone,but such is life and you do reap what you sow.
I hope we can all forgive these people who have hurt us and think they got away with it.Trust me, they will be taken care of.Just let it go and dont waste your energy on wicked wrong doers.
God bless you all!!
For your sake you need to get relief from caregiving for at least a day. Use this time to chill out & relax. I work full-time, so working is my break. I get no help from family, yet, they expect me to entertain them weekends. Are they kidding? The weekends are my down time. Sometimes I believe that I would be better off without family.
How often do your sons visit? At the risk of sounding judgemental, why couldn't they visit you during Christmas or better yet, why couldn't they invite you & your mother to their house. They sound like my family; as long as my mother cooked, the came through hell or high water. Now that she is not cooking, they make themselves scarce.
satintoribbons, your mom sounds wonderful, mine was the same way and thats why she is here with me right across the hall sleeping right now and will be forever. I think she deserves what she gave and she is getting it, we spoil her rotten! Hang in there and try and get help, its a lifesaver for me when someone comes in to bathe Mom for me and give me time off.
In circumstances like yours, it is best that you place your mother in Assisted Living or have her darling son pick her up & take her to Calgary. All you are doing is going to a bottomless pit. It sounds like your health is in jeopardy.
My mother was so good with us that even when she felt the need to reprimand us it did not seem like a reprimand & we never felt bad. She always took care as to not offend anyone; anything that came out of her mouth was like honey.
@Hearttoheart, please get respite care soon! You need it for YOU!
@ lilliansBonnie, sorry for your loss, thanks for the reminder. I pray that you will celebrate the wonderful times spent with your Mom.
Bless us all, Thank you all and may we all have a healthier more insightful New Year!
(what city do you live in... just wondering... since the people seem so nice)