I've been caring for my elderly father for at least 16 years now. I'm so extremely burnt out, tired, stressed & deeply depressed. I've reached out to my family for help dozens of times, when they finally decided to help me, my father sort of blow his top & ever since then I kind of feel that my family no longer wants to help me. I've even reached out to the VA (who my father has a doctor & nurse through), but since he (my father) can still make decisions for himself & think clearly, they (the VA) can not force my father to do anything that he doesn't want to do. My father absolutely does not want to go into a nursing home & he seems like he doesn't see the toll that taking care of him has taken out on me, even though I've told him countless times. I just feel like I can not take care of my father anymore, but considering that he can still make decisions for himself & completely refuses to go to a nursing home, what am I to do????????
You are going to have to stop caring for him and eventually the family will have to step in. Your life and happiness are important.