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I don't believe that anyone -- in hospice care or not -- can simply move into another person's home without that person's permission. He is ill, but it doesn't confer the prenatural ability to override laws. Your mom has to inform the social worker that she is not prepared to take her brother into her home. If she and you wish, you can confer with the social worker about where he will live, but that is entirely optional.
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ScoutBloom Nov 2021
Thank you. I listed the reasons she cannot care for him to the social worker. My mom is worried she'll be accused of neglect. I said that's only a possibility IF she lets him move in.
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Yeah, no -- Bro can't do that. If an ambulance transport shows up at her door, tell her not to answer it.
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ScoutBloom Nov 2021
Thank you.
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He's been using your mother over the years, and he's determined to keep doing that to his dying day.

Your mom can tell him that if he moves in, she'll kill him.

Sorry for my bad humor.

To answer your question, yes, hospice MUST have your mom's permission. They can't just drop him off at her place. Tell your mom to keep her doors locked and don't answer if he shows up.
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ScoutBloom Nov 2021
Thank you. I appreciate this.
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Your mother should tartly inform the social worker that her client has MISdirected hospice to her address. That ought to be the end of the conversation.

No, of course he can't just decide he's moving in with her. Yes, of course it would have been sensible, not to mention courteous, to have asked her before filling in the forms. But she needn't be shocked, just firm. Alternative arrangements will be made for him.
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ScoutBloom Nov 2021
I ended up having that conversation with the social worker who called to check in on my uncle. I got the impression they'd just like him off their books and in my mom's house. But since we were putting up a fight, they'd lay off.
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Your uncle can't just move into your mother's home, with or without hospice care, unless he has her permission and she agrees to the whole arrangement! She can just tell hospice and the social worker that she's unwilling to have her brother move into her home as she's not equipped to care for him, being a recent widow and grieving herself. Not that she has to explain herself, mind you. Even with hospice care, your mother would have A LOT to manage on her own with end of life care for a terminally ill patient who refuses to eat or bathe and it would be very stressful for her, I would imagine.

Good luck and Godspeed with a difficult situation
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ScoutBloom Nov 2021
Thank you. I truly believe he'd put her in an early grave with his manipulations and demands.
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