I really want to skip Thanksgiving this year. Usually, I cook for my husband, brother, and dad and maybe a few of my husband's nearby family. But, this year, the in-laws are going to spend it doing their own thing. Which leaves me trying to make Thanksgiving special for my dad, brother and husband. Dad's anger issues have gotten worse since his stroke 2 years ago and I'm the primary caregiver even though he's still able to live on his own. He and my brother have never been close...there's always tension, but they can get along for the sake of others. But there's ALWAYS that tension between the two of them. My brother just recovered from COVID and has already told me he's not up for a Thanksgiving meal and thinks we should just wait and get together for Christmas. So does my husband. My problem is...how do I tell dad we aren't going to get together that day? He's not the easiest to get along with right now. My husband says we could just take him a plate of Thanksgiving dinner. Which is fine with me...but, how do I explain that we aren't going to get together at our house?
You may not have just had surgery, but you’re not up to it either. It’s just a day. Your Dad will be fine with a nice plate of WHATEVER you offer. Even if he gets crabby about it.
Save your sanity, and take care of yourself. 🦃 Maybe play the Charlie Brown Thanksgiving video, sing a hymn of Thankfulness, for making it this far. Anything but stress out about one meal. 🍁
Best wishes!
I hope your daughter brings plates of food for you and your H!
The end.
If he throws a fit, you can just drop the plate of food off at the door and vamoose. You get to make the rules for your OWN holidays from now on, regardless of how angry it makes your father. He'll get over it, I promise.
Best of luck.