It seems like so many of us have the same issues.
My mother has not been nice all my life. So these last few years have been even harder to deal with.
But, 2 months ago my mother had a stroke. She seems to have recovered okay from it, but it has warp sped her dementia! My 2 other sisters, well one tries to relieve me once a week, but the one that actually lives with my mother has been, well, not available. My mother couldn't go back to thier home, because it was filthy. So she came to stay with us while it got cleaned. (6 weeks later still not clean). I could deal with her I think though, if mom wasn't so nasty! She remembers things, but she cannot do everything herself. I just cry everyday, because she is just that mean. My 15 year old just avoids being in the same room, and I feel bad. Our home is usually lots of fun, but we all just tippy toe around.
I am sorry to say, I wish I could just take her someplace else till her home is ready. What do I do. I want happiness back in my home again....
Please let me know if there is anything else I can do for you.
Welcome aboard. You will get a lot of support and encouragement here- I am so sorry for what you are going through. Good luck in court- let us know how it goes.
Mom doesn't talk to me anymore without snarling and spitting at me. She says she can't even stand to look at me anymore. She's called me the 'enemy' and sent me a 3-page letter of lies about how horrible a person I am. She screams at me, my husband, my sisters and their husbands. She only wants her 2 sons around her. I tell them "you can have her!" The main problem is that she's interfering with my trying to take care of my Dad.
You are right my cat seems to know when my fibromyalgia or R.A. is bad and he sleeps next to me and leans his warm body into mine and his warmth helps me go to sleep- it is the best medician-I lucked out when I met him at the shelter 2 yrs ago and when I cry he really seems to understand.
You are right on the button, since I took back my life so to speak so many people have told me how good I look you do have to rescue yourself. I am a her. This site is so great it took me a while to get on but before that I was able to read others commets and then my son fooled around with my computer and I was able to join in the group-it's great to be with people who get it. I've also learned how to find my own happiness sometimes its just sitting with my cat and talking to him.
I found that I just had to leave the room often when my husband was verbably abusive which is how your Mom treats you.Sometimes you can talk to the person but I talked about until I was blue in the face. When it was time to come home from rehab he would agree to be better and would be for a few days and then he would go right back to being mean. Now I tell myself I am worth more than that and his power over me to try to bring me down is gone. It took a long time for him to GET IT. When I told him other people were talking about us from what they see when we are out together he was shocked he could not understand what he was doing wrong. Now I don't go out with-I go bymyself to places we use to go together. I don't think your sisters' house will ever be ready- after 6 weeks she should have had at least enough of the house ready to take your Mon back. I was told by a therapist I was waiting for someone to rescue me and that was not going to happen-I had to do it for myself--it was very very hard to change and he resised it like crazy-he was happy me being his servant-his life was good my health was going down the tubes. Keep in touch it helps to verbalize. Take care
My heart goes out to you. I know others will come on and give you encouragrment, Ive been there with my husband and it hears so much to have someone who should love you treat you so badly.