My brother who is divorced currently lives in my mothers home. He currently takes care of her. If she accumulates high costs say from a nursing home. will he have to sell the dwelling to cover her costs. She never worked and is living on my dads social security.
Protect your future by working with a CERTIFIED eldercare attorney who is familar with CURRENT Medicaid regs in your state.
Meanwhile, if you're not eligible for Medicaid, there are other coverage options. If you are eligible for Medicaid, then you can apply for that. I personally would go ahead and take care of my preneed first and foremost before applying for anything, but I would do it right after taking care of my preneed and getting it paid for out of that money. I personally would not surrender that money to nothing but preneed. Whatever is left over I personally would keep for my own needs. Again, the small savings is probably not going to be enough for what the patient will later need, so definitely take care of yourself with that money
In your particular case you mention the patient having Alzheimer's. This is definitely no time to influence the patient, this would cross the line into undue influence and even abuse. Whether or not it's intended, people tend to do it all the time whether or not they mean to. You really want to speak to an elder care attorney and explore your options as well as the laws for your state.
Each state runs its Medicaid program uniquely.....this will matter for property as some states have the ceiling for value ( tax assessor value) at 500k, 550k or for some east coast states 750/800k. If moms place is over the value ceiling, she's toast for Medicaid. So you have to go to a Plan B.
For income, that too has state set limits. Most about $ 2,100. if over, mom may be able to do a Miller Trust to get it down to Medicaid limits. Miller is not ever a DIY project, you need an atty to do it.
For non exempt assets, it's 2k. So if mom has a whole life policy, she'll need to cash it in and do a spend down. if mom has other assets -like any savings or investments -they too need to be cashed in. Mom has to be impoverished aka "at need" for financial eligibility for Medicaid.
Also for NH Medicaid, mom will need to show to be "at need" medically. She will need to show need for skilled nursing care.
Now moms house is an exempt asset for Medicaid & in theory she can continue to own the house the rest of her life. But upon her death, house goes from an exempt asset to a non exempt and becomes an asset of her estate and subject to estate recivery (MERP). Now although keeping the house sounds just fabulous, it poses an issue for families. Mom will be required to basically pay all her monthly income to NH as her required co-pay or SOC (share of cost in medicaidspeak). If bro or you can afford all house costs from now till when mom dies and the through the probate & estate recovery process, then keeping the house can make sense. Mom might live another 6 mos or another 6 years......but whatever the time somebody will have to pay all the nut on the house from day 1 of NH medicaid till moms post death legal is done.
Now IF bro can qualify for the caregiver exemption from MERP, all this will be somewhat easier as he can get a release from MERP. Usually they have to show they lived in the home and provided full time care which kept mom from needing a NH and going onto Medicaid for at least 2years before. Now just how it's validated is sticky.....like for TX it's a required letter from the elders MD or SW indicating care& medical needs signed off by MD or SW with state licensing & registration info. If say mom lives another 5 years at the NH, it may not be at all easy to ever get such a letter from her old doc. Comprende? So bro needs to look into all this and if feasible. If he has a job, he's probably toast on getting caregiver exemption.
Each heir will need to qualify for their own exemption. So if it's just you & bro, and he qualifies for caregiver exemption that covers his 50% but you will be facing your 50% to deal with MERP.
Now on house costs, if it's going to be that you (who does not live in the house) are going to be the person paying house nut and you are going to be the executor of the estate, you imho are going to need to keep precise documentation on all costs paid. Why? Well you are going to file these as your own claim(s) against the estate (which has the now non exempt house as an asset of the estate) in probate. Usually executor costs come off the top for probate too. Funeral costs too. MERP claim is likely going to be down on the list to be paid. Depending on the value of the home, MERP could pass on doing estate recovery claim filing in probate as its not cost effective. But you have to go probate route -with its costs and requirements - to do this.
It's a lot to mull over. Really do you research, talks all over clearly with bro as to feasibility and the go see an elder law atty to do whatever paperwork now to make all this easier later on. What seems to happen is that family is all guns-ho for the first few months in paying/doing, but within the first year dealing with house becomes a PIA...house gets placed on market..gets sold and ALL the proceeds from the sale become a spend-down for mom as she is now ineligible for Medicaid. You or family probably really can't be reinbursed for house costs either as it comes across as gifting. To me, if your gonna keep moms house, your better be able to stay all in for however long is needed.
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