My wife and I recently had my mother, who has Alzheimer's, move in with us. Dad also had dementia, so two years ago, my wife and I moved a trailer onto my parents property, so we could take care of them. They lived in a small house next to our trailer. In October, they both caught covid (unvaccinated), and dad died. Mom went to rehab for a month, then came to live with us, because we felt it wasn't safe for her to live by herself in the house. The house has no heat, just a wood stove, so it wasn't suitable anyway. (Last winter was a nightmare). So it has been a roller coaster ride having mom living with us so far. The rehab said she was at stage 5 of the 7 stages of Alzheimer's progression. One big issue is that she currently does not have a doctor. A doctor has to send the order for home health care to the health care agency that her medicare advantage insurance will pay for. Seems no area doctors are taking new patients now. Also, I have no power of attorney (mom doesn't trust lawyers), but am going to talk to a lawyer next week about getting guardianship. We don't want to put mom in managed care, because she owns 8 acres of ground, (which our trailer is sitting on), and my understanding is that the property would have to be sold for her to qualify for medicaid. The local hospital has "in home hospice care", but the nurse that came by said that mom isn't "far along enough". She would have to be not ambulatory, and incontintent before they could provide help. My wife and I are stuck with one of us always having to be with mom, (I quit my job) so its really confining. My hope is that we can manage to keep mom at home so we don't have to sell the property and lose out trailer (its too old to be moved again). So, this is a long way of saying, I feel pretty lost right now.
Also, if mom has no doctor, how did she get diagnosed with Alzheimer's to begin with?? Who do you call when issues arise, or do you just keep taking her to the ER? I would say it's imperative to get online and find a PCP for her immediately. I would think the hospital social worker could assist you with that. Or the area Office on Aging.
With stage 5 AD going on, it's unlikely you can get POA assigned now because she's incompetent to sign legal documents. You'll be better off going for guardianship which can be costly and take time, however.
My condolences on the loss of your father. I wish you good luck trying to care for your mother at home and preserve the 8 acres of land she owns. You may want to rethink quitting your job and losing that income, though, not to mention paying into Social Security to insure YOUR retirement years are properly covered, financially. Keep in mind your mother's resources are intended to be used for HER care in old age. Quitting your job to preserve a few acres of land may be a disastrous financial move on your part. A chat with an Elder Care atty is likely your best move at this juncture.