My sister will not allow the hospital or nurse to provide siblings information on my dying mother's health condition. Now she wants us to schedule 1 visit per day per sibling. The doctor said my mom is dying, we want to go see her before she dies to say our good bye. My sister the POA wants the siblings visit restricted to only one per day. There are six of us, she may die anytime. Can she do this?
Given Covid, I can see why your sister may not want a deluge of family.
Regardless of Covid,
If your sister has been a primary caregiver, you should respect her. She knows most about your mom’s wishes and daily routine. She is probably trying to keep the environment as calm as possible for your mother.
You should also think of your sister’s feelings. Her nerves are Certainly rattled.
Having been around multiple people at end of life, I can also say I would not want crowds of people descending on me in my last days. Commotion, noise, chaos, crying, and even apathy would probably all be displayed.
If you have all been visiting regularly this should not be an problem.