My siblings and I all agree that my elderly Mother is showing signs of dementia. We have been trying to get her into a Doctor to be diagnosed. Our Aunt who lives 9 hours away keeps trying to micro manage the situation. She feeds into my Mother's paranoia and has created an "Us vs. Them" situation. She also helped my Mother cancel the appointments that my Mothers Doctor made for her with a well-respected Neurology group. I don't know what to do! This Aunt is making this so much harder on my siblings and I. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I think its important that my Mother see a Doctor. Dementia is a group of symptoms. The actual ailment could be one of 89 different illnesses (I've done some research). Vascular, Lewy Body, Severe Anxiety or Depression, Parkinson's, Alcohol induced dementia, Alzheimers.... or she could just have extremely low B12 levels. So I think its important to get a proper and thorough diagnosis.
Or is she sending her directly to a neurologist?
" Auntie, these are the things were noticing about mom right now. We know she has your confidence and that you have her best interests at heart. We need a good and sensitive way to get her medically looked at. How do you think we should approach this?"
I tried to include my Aunt and she got nasty. I'm done with her. I won't communicate with her any longer.