I quit my job when my dad got ill and my mom also needed help, to take care of them in my home, my dad died recently, so it is permanent ... with my mom. I have asked for $300 a dollars for utilities, gas, etc. Is this too much and do i have to answer for it later if she needs a nursing home and they go back five years? I am just starting out on this journey and it is overwhelming and lonely sometimes, very hard life change. Thanks for this forum.
Depending on your mom's income from SS and pension, she may or may not qualify for Medicaid. Get some guidance now and you will be far better prepared for the future.
This money is not a gift to you, so it should have no bearing on her qualifications for Medicaid. But life will be much easier and future transaction will go much smoother if you take the time and expense now to consult with a lawyer specializing in elder law. At the same time you can take care of such documents as POA, healthcare proxy, healthcare directive, etc., if this has not been done. Get all your ducks in a row and you won't have to worry about it later.