For various reasons my 4 siblings and 2 nieces live with me (I'm on disability and have a small pension. I also own a 3 flat). They have no income. My oldest sister takes care of me, but she doesn't want to. And the rest feel the same way, except one sister who just recently became legally blind. I'm single, no kids or friends. All I have is them. I'm tired of being the only one paying bills. The blind sister wont collect her pension (even though she hasn't worked in years) or try to get disability. My oldest sister doesn't want to collect her SS. She is 67. I'm the youngest at 56. My brother has mental issues and can't understand simple instructions and my other sis cooks for me (She doesn't want to). I know I should kick them out, but I wold be all alone. My nieces basically ignore me. My other nieces and nephews won't help either.
I don't ask for much. Just make sure I have my meals, meds and to be bathed. I have a purewick system, so I don't have to be changed (only when I have a BM). Otherwise, I'm on my phone or tablet watching movies, paying bills or sleeping. What can I do? Does it seem like I'm asking for a lot?
If you want to insist your family pay rent, that is well within your rights; just bear in mind that if that occurs, you are now responsible to them as any other landlord would be. Are you able to do that? Or are you looking to barter living expenses for care? Because that's never really a idea that works out well for either party.
You say: "I dont ask for much. Just make sure i have my meals, meds and to be bathed. I have a purewick system so i don't have to be changed (only when i have a BM)."
Ummm...in my mind, that is QUITE a lot you're asking for. That sort of sounds like 24/7 care to me.
If this is legitimate, maybe it's time you sold all of your properties and looked into nursing home care. If your siblings were to come here into this forum and write their side of this story, what would they be posting about you and being burnt out? And the family dynamics have just added ANOTHER person to be cared for (older sister just became legally blind)...
I'm sorry that you've been dealt this hand, but I really think you're expecting more care than your family is able to give. Now I think you need to bring in professionals, even at the sacrifice of selling your properties, in order to get the care you clearly need but feel you aren't receiving.
Good luck.
Something is badly wrong here.
And maybe some of the responsibility is yours. By allowing them to slide on paying their own way, you are decreasing the quality of life for all of you. I hope you call and see what help is available.