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"A pharmacy will deliver her pills to her monthly in pill packs by the morning and night, so she doesn't have to set up her meds." So, is this the same medication? Or something different? If it's the same medication (or comparable) then she is at risk of overmedicating again, pill packs or not. More info would be helpful.
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Valcra Apr 2021
No, she is no longer on the antidepressants and will be on medicines that are for her blood pressure, osteoporosis, and supplements. Nothing mind altering anymore.
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My aunt also became unsafe to live alone and ultimately ended up in care due to the abuse of prescription medications and in my opinion the doctor was complicit in that since her prescriptions were routinely extended despite her running out at shorter and shorter intervals. In your sister's case I would be concerned that she may once again fall into the pattern of overusing her medication once she returns to her own home and perhaps her children feel the same way 🤔. Although I agree you are not your sister's keeper perhaps you are in the position to offer her a compromise that may be acceptable to everyone, like a move to an Independent Living apartment with medication management and the possibility of a higher level of care in the future.
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jacobsonbob Apr 2021
Does Valcra's sister still take that kind of medication, or a similar one, at all? If not, then the possibility of abuse should be minimal if any. Perhaps she's currently taking completely-different kinds of medications, for completely-unrelated issues. I hope Valcra provides additional details for clarification.
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If her doctor and psychiatrist have both cleared her, and she is not mentally nor physically impaired, then the only person responsible for her is her.

That said - frankly, I think you took a huge chance taking her out of a facility on the hopes that tweaking/stopping her meds would make everything "all better". Especially since her children clearly stated they would not help her any longer., should she choose to leave the facility. What would you have done if she hadn't gotten any better? Were you ready to take on her care in your home for the foreseeable future? You're very, very lucky it worked out the way it did, because usually people who have anxiety issues to the point where they need medication don't just "get better" by stopping the meds. Have you heard that she's cleared from the doctors yourself, or is she just telling you what the doctors said? And if that's the case, are you sure you can believe her?

As so many people here have found out, children don't have the "right" to place parents into a nursing home against their wishes, especially if the person hasn't been deemed incompetent by the court. As to whether or not they can hold you responsible should something happen - and by this, I assume they mean they will sue - well, people in this country can sue anyone for any reason. If they can win any sort of money from it is the question, and I would doubt it. If sis has it in her mind to move out and be on her own, that is her choice, and she will be responsible to deal with the consequences, unless you petitioned to be her guardian and it was granted.
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Valcra Apr 2021
No, we knew she could come off these medications but she lives in an area where medical care is very poor. This medication was given 12 years ago to help her over the death of her husband, our sister and her dog. She was, according to all medical reports, supposed to be on this medication for no longer than 8 weeks, but her doctors have continued it for 12 years. No one told my sister that this "nerve" pill was extremely addictive as it is a benzodiazepine. However, once she found out, she wanted off of it but was told by those doctors that she could NEVER come off of it.

My doctors told a different story, and yes, I was with her at all doctors appointments since she has been in my home. Had it gone wrong, my doctors would have cared for her. They knew about the issue before they saw her the first time and were in fact, in contact with the care center she came from, plus, we have 5 such centers within 30 miles of me, so yes, I would have taken care of her in my home or one of these. Its what my family does for each other, but her children don't want the hassle

We now have her off the medicine. A pharmacy will deliver her pills to her monthly in pill packs by the morning and night, so she doesn't have to set up her meds. The grocery store will deliver her groceries, and she has a free ride to doctors appointments where she will go once she gets home, different from her prior doctors, plus they will provide a female escort to accompany her to the visits.

She also has free rides to the grocery store should she want to go, and someone to clean her apartment weekly.

I believe everything she could want, besides her children to love her again, has been provided.
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First I have to say, Wow, what a scary story about your sister and her medication. It makes me wonder how many other people have been misdiagnosed, because of the medication they're taking.
Now I will say, you are not responsible for your sister, and what might happen to her if she goes to live on her own. Like you said, you are not her POA or guardian(although I hope she has someone designated as such for the future)and so if she wants to try living on her own, and her Dr. and psychiatrist are behind it, then I say more power to her. Let her go live her life as she sees fit. She deserves that much after what she's been through and the years that she lost because of the medication.
Her children are just trying to guilt you into something that is not your responsibility, as they obviously don't want to deal with her. It's always sad when you get to see family members true colors, when push comes to shove. I wish you the best.
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Valcra Apr 2021
It is very sad. Thank you!
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