My mom is 83 years old and has several health problems managed with medication. She doesn’t drive anymore. She does cook, clean, do laundry and play bingo. Recently her dr has mentioned some further testing to her and she refuses to have anything else done. She says she’s been through enough. This is breaking my heart. I’ve tried to talk her into it and she is adamant she’s not doing it. I feel like I’m failing as a daughter. I have severe anxiety that if I leave (I live next door) she will need me and I won’t be here. When I am at work I’m constantly worrying. If I go out with my husband, it’s constant worry.
I know it's hard to accept because you love your mom and want her to have the best life possible for her. She's an adult and has decided to live life on her terms. God bless her for that.
Constant worrying over it will not change or help anything. Death comes for us all at some point whether we are surrounded by people or completely alone.
Would your mother be open-minded to the idea of a hired companion spending time with her during the day while you're at work? They can help her with cooking and housework or just keep her company. They can also take her out to run errands or to social outings. This might ease your mind knowing that someone is with her while you're at work.