I am planning a cruise for 6 days in November. I have six close friends going with us. My issue is as you know Alz people can get upset in unfamiliar situations. How do I keep him calm and hopefully enjoy himself. My doctor said to keep the Ativan handy and make sure he does not get overhausted. I have also gotten us a larger room so he does not feel closed in. On previous cruises he has been confused and kept saying I want to go home after about two days. I cannot go without him as he is very attached to me and I know he feels safe when I am around.
Your thinking is faulty. While you may not want to see others in public places with this dreadful illness, thankfully, the majority of others don't care. I've had people come up to me and actually huge me, stating how much they care and how they've been through this, and good luck, etc. I've never had anyone say to me "Get that woman out of here, she disgusts me!"....
You need to lighten up. I think you need to take a deep breathe and ask yourself where your hate for the infirmed being in public places comes from.
Think about that and I'd think twice before posting such hateful comments. That is not the way to get help for your own questions.
It just hit a nerve with me
As I mentioned my mom is sweet and calm, no outburst or agitation etc...only maybe a little loud due to hearing issues. anyway she does require help and reminders to eat!
I was reminded of a situation where as I took her out to church and Sunday brunch on Mothers day. In our tiny country community I chose a place I had heard was a good family owned diner, for a reason! I don't know if it was us or them but we were literally nearly ignored by waitstaff thank goodness I didn't need any ketchup! Anyway we were definitely stared at by everyone. It would have been a lovely morning without that! It broke my heart, but was blessed that she could not recognize what had happened. she had a nice breakfast!
Again I apologize!
side resort because of a disoriented partner who kept going in the wrong rooms. I have put my partner in respite care while I was having surgery, and it was a disaster (and a very expensive one) for everyone involved. No matter how you feel about it, you must consider the other vacationers who would not be so patient with someone wandering into their room, or have the empathy that you do. Don't you sometimes wish that people would leave their obnoxious poorly trained children at home so you and your friends can have a reasonable conversation at breakfast in a nice restaurant. Especially loud ADHD children who scream at parents. I agree so completely with dirty and feel sorry for everyone who doesn't realize that life will never again be the same for you if you are trying to do the best for your loved one. You must put your own needs on hold.
Anyway, it is up to the individual situation and circumstances what they feel comfortable with! We can only offer advice/experiences! and try to help them achieve normal life pleasures.
Perhaps also option if not mentioned already is a third person to come and help, often get specials on the 3&4 passenger! Maybe a responsible/old enough grandchild or fam member that would also appreciate the time/bonding they could help with luggage and the little things, etc..... allowing you to focus on the comfort of your loved one!
I just popped in here and did not see the negative stuff until after posting just skimmed and saw " dirty" thing....
Your out of line, They are human beings and deserve to be wherever they want to be, and kharma shall make that place be close to you!!!!
Sorry but that was just rude of them!
I think a cruise is an excellent choice for a vacation. for one thing the boat is contained for the most part except shore excursions, etc..... so that is somewhat a comfort, but what I really find appealing is the ease of a cruise vacation.especially in caregiving role! More meals and food options than a human needs. May I have another lobster, please!!! No worries about what to do where to go, just sign up for what sounds fun onboard or take an adventure out, but it is all organized for you...you just basically have to show up!!
I remember also when mom was just arthritic, she would complain and use that cane like a security blanket. I took her and dad on a cruise for their anniversary and the next morning we did not see that cane till we went home!! I was glad to give her that!!! We had the time of our lives!
I so hope you get to go and make some precious memories, life is too short!!!
I had been taking my mother out for awhile but saw that public places created a huge disorientation in her demeanor and that's why I don't take her. I don't particularly care what YOU think about people with dementia. I do what right for my mom. If you don't want to SEE the effects of aging, I'd suggest You stay away from public places.
So sorry to be so rude. But my goodness.
Again, not the answer you want but the best option and safest option for your husband is to not bring him. Sorry.
You're planning a trip that the husband you used to know would have enjoyed. This husband needs routine and security. A cruise is exactly the opposite of that.
As others have advised...call a local AL community and reserve a respite stay for him. Book a few days longer than the cruise so you have a day or so to settle him in there and a day to regroup when you get back. Rather than discuss it (argue) with him, have the doctor 'prescribe' a brief stay for 'rehab'.
Think of your friends who are accompanying you and the other cruise passengers. Your husband is better off at home. You need a break, too. You CAN go without him. He will be fine.
I have traveled with my elderly parents, and even cruised with my friend's Very elderly dad, because she could not leave him.....but they did not have AD.
Sorry I think you were trying to hold onto some sense of normalcy in your life. I just do not think this will work out well for you. At the very minimum make sure you have ship health insurance.... You never know what can present.
Best of luck.
Though I understand what you are saying, hubby does not belong on this cruise. It would be hard on everybody. Which brings up another question.
Sheila, do you need to board a plane to travel to the departure location? I cannot imagine the frightening possibilities on a plane!
And another of your posts you mention you are awaiting determination on a Medicaid application. Something is not right here.