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Put husband in assisted living 2 months ago. I'm dying of Colon and liver cancer (soon I hope). I opened a trust for him, the money will last 6 years. Then what? I'll be dead and the lawyer, trust and brother refuse to act as POA. Brother is always yelling at me to get another lawyer. I am very sick. I want to die. Husband has Alzheimer's. When I opened the trust they said they would be POA. I have POA docs. I've had cancer for 8 years and can not take anymore treatment. I've been pretty much on my own with the cancer. Lots of surgery, chemo and radiation. I got to and from treatment on my own after 1st year. Husband slowly fell apart during this time and now I can't handle him.

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I am so very sorry.
See a new attorney, Trust and Estate, and ask for a Licensed Fiduciary who does this work.
You can sign everything up at once and insurance management of his Trust for his benefit if no family will act in this.

Also make an appointment with the banker where you bank. They can often handle trusts or can guide you.

So sorry you are going through all of this.

I also recommend you join FEN and discuss with an advisor there your options. FEN is The Final Exit Network at www.finalexitnetwork.org phone 866 654 9156
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I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your husband. Typically a trust will name a successor trustee and have contingencies for if that person is unwilling or unable to serve, last in line is generally someone named by the drafting law firm. A POA document depending on how it is drafted may or not have these contingencies.

Worst case I believe the facility would have their legal folks petition the court to have your husband named a ward of the state and a guardian appointed by the court who would then handle the finances on his behalf and then apply for medicaid on his behalf if the trust money runs out.

If you have the energy perhaps a call to the financial folks to find out what their procedure is in cases like yours will put your mind at ease.

You have done yeomans work in handling all of this. Much admiration and respect.
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I’m sorry about all you have been going through all on your own .

Call your County Area Agency of Aging , maybe a social worker can help you with finding another lawyer or someone willing to be POA or guardian for your husband. Maybe the social worker can do the steps for you of setting it up and then you just need to sign papers . I’m not sure but it’s worth a try , or maybe they can at least make suggestions of how to proceed .

Look under the Dept of Aging or somethlng similar on your County Website. I’m sure elderly, who had no family , have called them asking for how to find a POA for themselves . I would assume they can at least help start a process .

Maybe others here will have other suggestions .
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