Our father is 94 was told several years ago to stop driving. Our mother and other family members refuse to intervene even though he can no longer make phones calls, fix a sandwich, etc. We children have taken the vehicle but he managed to reclaim it, doctors reported him to bureau of motor vehicles but all to no avail. What to do?
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The insurance will not be valid, so where will Mum live when she loses the house in the lawsuit to cover the damages when he has an accident?
It is easier for your family to not rock the boat. Easier to ignore the new dings in the car. Easier to not stand your grand and tell Dad, No, you cannot drive and that is that.
How on earth did Dad reclaim the vehicle?
How could he reclaim the car? Does anyone have POA. That person can sell the car. You need to find a way to disable it. Then like another post on the forum, have it towed to be fixed. Each time he asks for it, tell him its still at the garage.
I entered the words "car dementia driving" into this website's search function and dozens of articles came up. Read them.
I do not believe that a 94 year old man with dementia is resourceful enough to "reclaim" a vehicle that has been taken away without help from someone!
Not everyone can self regulate. Spouses are often enablers because they are also too old and frail to fight back. The only answer to someone who no longer is a safe driver is to stop them from driving.
There must be hundreds, if not thousands, of posts on this forum about this very subject.
Some take keys. Some scramble the wiring. Say there is a problem and have the car towed for “repairs”. Some take the car. Some take the license. Some have insurance cancelled.
He sounds resourceful. How long ago did he reclaim it?
Here is a link to some previous posts that might be helpful.
https://www.agingcare.com/search?term=Car