Having my mother come stay with me is very hard, but I have to take care of her. she is the one that took care of me and never gave up on me when I was young and stupid. No way could I put her in a nursing home. Only as a last last option. Besides god took me that it is my job to take care of her. My husband said since my mother has been with me a my home, I have aged. What am I to do. Only my best. My mother eye sight is not good her hearing is not good, I am working on both of these things to make it better for her, except for her sight. She has collis where she has no control over her poop. SO I am very tried of cleaning poop. All I have to say I am bless to have my mother at age 87. I love her dearly. she has been the best mom that god could have given me. So now it is my turn to show my appreciation. Keep me and my mom in your prays.
You sound tired and maybe you need a break for you and your husband is that so wrong? dont you think you deserve it?
You are a Hero! I am also taking care of my Mother, who is 94. There are so many things we cannot control and must just continue to care care of their needs as best we can. Join or start a Support Group for caregivers in your neighborhood. I live in a small town and I started a group that meets every 2 weeks. There's just 3 of us in the group but we get to share, vent and give each other advice. As far as the uncontrolled pooping look into her diet. With my Dad fiber helped him. With my Mom it's been probiotics. If you're not comfortable "prescribing" these things yourself take her to a gastroenterologist. You probably won't be able to fix it if he's colitis but you can definitely make it better. Also I now give my Mom almond milk instead of regular milk.
Good luck and keep love in your heart
I know when I complain about driving my parents [92 and 96] anywhere, some people will say that my parents drove me around when I was a child.... I thought about that, but reality sets in and I remember that when I was a child, my Mom and Dad were in their 30's, not in their 60's [my age].... and that's a big difference. So remember that on days you might feel overwhelmed.