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Thank you Jeanne, This is very helpful information. I know things are going to get worse, so I am preparing for the future (if that's possible with this Disease) mentally & emotionally as a caregiver to take care of myself Thanks again for listening.
The author, Carol Bradley Bursack, is a very wise and compassionate person with lots of caregiving experience.
I would like to point out that she is writing about situations with abuse in the background. She specifically excludes dementia. The loved one with dementia who says or does hurtful things may not at all be intending abuse. That can be extremely heartbreaking and difficult to deal with, but it is not the same as long term willful abuse. Also, while leaving the room momentarily during a dementia outburst may diffuse the situation, it isn't really intended to "teach" the person with dementia new behavior. That may be beyond their capacity. With an abusive person you really do want to teach them new behavior.
Of course, some parents who were abusive all their lives do get dementia. Personally, I think having professionals care for that parent is the best course of action. That is just too many layers for someone emotionally involved to deal with.
Thanks for your reply Jessie, I believe is that my Mom is voicing her frustrations with the situation she is in, by lashing out at me. I also feel that she is probably wanting to give the impression to the "world" that she's OK and doesn't need help and I don't need to be her and that she doesn't know why I moved to her home.
When I explain the situation to the aunt, she says "I know you are telling the truth, but it's just so hard to accept", however, she talks to my mother in a different way often supporting Mom's negative talk about me. She tells my mother that she should still be able to do and not do (like driving for example and going for walks alone). The Dr's have advised against this. The Primary Dr says absolutely no driving among other things.
Tonight was just awful. When I called to give aunt my side of the story, I had to get off the phone with her when she started on the same cycle of thought she does every time I called her in the past & I have to explain the same story over & over. Aunt also has early Dementia.
Her daughter, my cousin: I have tried explaining in writing but was constantly being sent insensitive emails. I drew the line when she told me that I was an awful niece and, as my mother's only sister, her mother needed to know what was going on and I was wrong for not calling her to giver her updates. They both tell people that my mother will "snap out of this", because on the phone my mother says she is fine and sounds fine.
I stopped calling my aunt when each conversation she went over the same things I had already told her regarding the situation and she told me to never put my mother in a nursing home. Her daughter in a nutshell told me I wasn't doing enough to make the situation better. I feel so frustrated and I am only at the top of the first inning of this loosing battle of Dementia :-(
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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This is very helpful information. I know things are going to get worse, so I am preparing for the future (if that's possible with this Disease) mentally & emotionally as a caregiver to take care of myself
Thanks again for listening.
I would like to point out that she is writing about situations with abuse in the background. She specifically excludes dementia. The loved one with dementia who says or does hurtful things may not at all be intending abuse. That can be extremely heartbreaking and difficult to deal with, but it is not the same as long term willful abuse. Also, while leaving the room momentarily during a dementia outburst may diffuse the situation, it isn't really intended to "teach" the person with dementia new behavior. That may be beyond their capacity. With an abusive person you really do want to teach them new behavior.
Of course, some parents who were abusive all their lives do get dementia. Personally, I think having professionals care for that parent is the best course of action. That is just too many layers for someone emotionally involved to deal with.
I believe is that my Mom is voicing her frustrations with the situation she is in, by lashing out at me. I also feel that she is probably wanting to give the impression to the "world" that she's OK and doesn't need help and I don't need to be her and that she doesn't know why I moved to her home.
When I explain the situation to the aunt, she says "I know you are telling the truth, but it's just so hard to accept", however, she talks to my mother in a different way often supporting Mom's negative talk about me. She tells my mother that she should still be able to do and not do (like driving for example and going for walks alone). The Dr's have advised against this. The Primary Dr says absolutely no driving among other things.
Tonight was just awful. When I called to give aunt my side of the story, I had to get off the phone with her when she started on the same cycle of thought she does every time I called her in the past & I have to explain the same story over & over. Aunt also has early Dementia.
Her daughter, my cousin: I have tried explaining in writing but was constantly being sent insensitive emails. I drew the line when she told me that I was an awful niece and, as my mother's only sister, her mother needed to know what was going on and I was wrong for not calling her to giver her updates. They both tell people that my mother will "snap out of this", because on the phone my mother says she is fine and sounds fine.
I stopped calling my aunt when each conversation she went over the same things I had already told her regarding the situation and she told me to never put my mother in a nursing home. Her daughter in a nutshell told me I wasn't doing enough to make the situation better.
I feel so frustrated and I am only at the top of the first inning of this loosing battle of Dementia :-(