The nurse came yesterday..put a foley cath in mom since she kept thinking she needs to potty. I was worried mom is so weak. She needs to rest so this will help with her being able to rest completely. The nurse came and assessed mom she says it will be just be a matter of days..one week.
Mom got up last night actually stood up for the first time in a month..said she needs to go. "I said where mom?" and she starts picking up the bedding as to take it with her. " they are waiting for me and I'm going with them" I tell her "mom, lets rest first." She says to me..."are you coming too?" I said "sure, mom but first we rest, they will come back in the morning."
I guess the nurse said this is common too..they will have a surge of energy. I pray for peace. I hope this is over soon.
May god send his holy spirit down upon you and protect you. You are an angel among angels on this forum. Thank you for your reflections, prayers and kind words.
Remember - this is a beautiful sadness. Take it day by day. And also you need to be very very kind to your soul and body in the coming days -- it is very fragile and must be nurtured.
Love,
Patty
its the space she took up that is empty now, that can hurt so much-
she will never be far away from you-
she loves u and so do we-
im sorry
love
k
such love, compassion, patience, and the most beautiful n profound grace.....that I can feel it through the screen... Your mothers passing to the arms of Jesus, I'm sure, was gentle and filled with love....it will take time for you to adjust to life, without her physical body, but, you know as well as many of us do....our loved ones never, really leave us.....with that known....I pray for you, comfort n eventually...peace....God Bless You .....much love.....Beck
Thanks for all the prayers this week. It was a tough thing to endure but my sisters and I were there with her the whole time. God bless you all.
I wish I could reach through this computer and just hold your hand.
God bless you.
My mom died last Thursday. She went without food for 10 days and without water for over 5 days. She just kept on and kept on. Like your mom, she went from here (home) where I was primary caretaker, through a huge shitstorm of a crisis, switched hospice providers, was admitted 2 days before Christmas to a hospice house for respite for me and to get her more comfortable (long story)...and then to a rehab center to finish out her life. I gave all I could for as long as I could and then one day I woke up and said "I can't do this anymore. I'm done".
After that, angels took over. The Hospice house was like a peaceful heaven for her and for me. They gave her a quilt for xmas and I got a stuffed Santa. They fed me a wonderful Christmas dinner. And in return, I weeded their courtyard. My mom left there and transferred to a rehab center she had been at over the summer, and they welcomed her back as if she was everyone's "nana". They absolutely loved on her, and carried out hospice's orders to the Tee, each and every hour. I do believe my mom knew she was there, knew her favorite CA when he crawled into her bed and held her while crying for her -- she opened her eyes and said "Hi Ed!" and that was the last sensible thing she said. I think she decided she could leave when she realized that she was not going home again. I think she was greatly distressed by the strain the caregiving was putting on me and was actually content to be comfortable, with friends and that she could let go.
She passed quietly Thursday morning.
I returned to work today. I told my coworkers again and again that I know their prayers worked -- because angels came to me again and again and helped me and my mom out.
Ironically, or not, 3 people in my department at work lost their mom's over the holidays. All three of us were the primary caretakers. All of us left work on leave when things got bad. All of us watched our mothers peacefully leave the world under the watchful eyes of hospice nurses.
Your mom wil be joining these three fine ladies soon.
It will be a peaceful sadness. That's what they called it at the Hospice House. I like that. Peace be upon you, peace be to your family, and peace to your beautiful mother.
im sorry for this torture at the end of this life-rips your insides, u both r lucky to have had eachother-
i cry and pray for u-
and send u support and love-
k