Hello, just a few words to let you know that I have been feeling better today. I received an antidecubitus bed and I met someone from the agency for home assistance. I should have a quote tomorrow. I can work 12 days per month at home but I have to go back to my office from the 15th to the 18th March. So I hope I will have someone to come here by then.
I have a week off so I will write a little bit about what happened here.
tantissimi auguri per queste feste natalizie a tutti
on the 15th December I moved my mom to another facility after in the posh on they almost lost her device for checking her pacemaker… she is now closer and I can visit 6 days/7. But what is more important the check her, they saw her urine was concentrated and so they hydrated her by dripI was told by the nurse but I had already understood it as I saw the needle. In 40 days, in the beautiful new facility they never did anything like this.
Here she says everything is nice, she became friend of another lady whom she eats with and who encourages my mom to eat more! The building is older but they are well organised, the atmosphere seems to be cheerful and we had a good laugh when my mom told me the rehab therapist told her she is so cute he would like to adopt her!
I am now relaxing and sleeping for 8 hours per night! I can’t recall when I could last do this!
but I am still very angry with the other facility and wonder if I can do something to stop their bad behaviour. Not only do they receive money from the government but what about all those elderly people who do not have a family who can check on them?
while there my mom got an infection to her thumb, one to her eyes, they were not able to check her pacemaker, lost her roller (and the found it), broke her phone… let her cry in pain!!!! (Which I was told by the nurse! She told me to tell my mum to ask for help as she seemed afraid… I told her my mum called someone but was told they had no time for her and was probably called some not nice words).
Yes, do find out how to report the previous facility. That's the only way these places get it sorted out.
As to reporting the first place, if I understand correctly the Italian government was paying for your mother's stay there. I would contact their local office, or representative, or perhaps headquarters, and ask how to report an underperforming and potentially negligent facility. (I use the term potentially b/c you don't want to make accusations, just get the government involved and let them decide what accusations are appropriate.)
but here I am today to wish a very happy Easter to all of you!
that is so very hard! I don’t know what to pray for: I don’t want her to suffer but I would like to have some more time to spend together.
thank you for your support, I will keep you updated
My mom died that same evening. I was with her, it was heartbreaking since morphine did not work properly, she woke up soon and she was in terrible pain. She would ask for her and when I asked her what I could do she just answered I could not do anything...
We had her funeral on Sathurday 9th.
In Italy, we have some small cards with the picture of our beloved printed to give as a memory. I had this sentence by St. Augustine printed on them:
"They whom we love and lost are no longer where they were before.
They are now wherever we are."
I feel a little lost but I know she is in a better place now, with my dad who died 40 years ago : they will protect me and my family.
I do believe she "sees" all the expressions of love and esteem I am receiving for her.
We had the chance to say goodbye and how much we love each other.
Tears are now in my eyes... and it is diffucult to go on writing.
I will still visit this wonderful forum that helped me so much.
It was a lovely post, my dear. Your mother and your father will be “now wherever you are”.
Lots of love, Margaret
Be at peace. You did all that you could, and more.