Hello all you loving caregivers,
I have been on this site for 3 years as my Moms 24/7 caregiver and that is now changing. The transition will take place next month but we are not telling Mom until close to moving time. I know that she is going to put up a fuss. I offered to stay in my Mothers home until she passed but only with certain legal things put in writing. This included a little monthly salary - not close to the $5000 assisted living charges - 2 weeks of respite per year and I wanted the house put in my name in my Mother passes before I do. I gave them options if they were not willing to go with my wishes. They were not willing so my Mother is moving into an assisted living up by my Sis. It is going to be an interesting month as my sis thinks my Mom is just going to roll over and agree. I am keeping out of everything since I am so excited to get back my own life. When my Mom starts to boss me around I think "only 1 more month" and just smile.
I stayed away from visiting but sis went to see her and ..oh boy...a big tantrum. Mom is settled now even though she asks to go home at every visit. Good luck with hour mom and best wishes to getting your life back.