My mom is 49 years old and wont move out of my house! I am married, 22, in the AirForce and my mom wont go. She blames her situation on the economy, if you want a job bad enough you will get one and for the past year she does nothing but leach off me and boss me around in my own house. To make matters worse she has an alcohol problem that she wont admit to. I need help!!! I cant take it any more.
Push comes to shove, give her a 30-day notice.
It's up to you to find the strength and confidence to do what is best for yourself and your marriage. There is help out there... professional counseling and support groups like Alanon for families with issues related to alcohol.
And you certainly aren't providing a healthy environment for your youngsters. You may also be putting your marriage at risk.
No doubt she has had a tough row to hoe, having become a mother at 16. I sympathize. But you deserve control of your own life (as much as any of us have that!) and enabling her to be irresponsible now is just not good for anyone.