I've posted on here before and I get criticized for complaining. If you people would walk in my shoes then I'm sure you would be more forgiving. As usual, my life with my 89 1/2 year old mother is a living h*ll. She complains constantly and argues. her old age and illnesses have made her this way. She's always had a meanness in her, but the old age has made it worse. She expects me to constantly be at her beckon call. I have no life not have ever had a "life".
My father died when I was 15 and my life story was written out then. I was ridiculed and harassed by my mother when I tried to date or get a girlfriend. She always thought that she came first and I was giving her up if I found a girlfriend. Does this sound bizarre to you? It's very bizarre! I'm 55 years old now and I'm miserable at the lifestyle that has been forced upon me. I'm a 24/7 caregiver. My mother will cuss (4 letter words), yell and argue. She can be a terror. I literally gave up my life, but this is what my mother expected of me. I was never able to experience the normal things most people do in life.
I agree with Babalou, there is something else going on here. It may be mental illness only made worse by dementia. She is not a healthy person to have taken your life completely over since you were 15, 40 years ago when your dad died. She has not been a good mother to you and you have been far too good of a son.
When something happens to mom, I no longer have sisters.
Sad that I feel this way, don't you agree?
Shame on your sisters, yes. But to live so close and choose not to visit one's mother means there is definitely something wrong. Maybe Sis's childhood relationship to your parents was very different than you were aware. It is possible that this estrangement is as much your mother's fault as your sister's. Have you ever discussed the issue with Sis? Or maybe Sis has a mental health problem. Or maybe she really is just an a*hole.
Whatever the cause of this rift, you need to write off your sisters in relation to caregiving. Sad? OMG yes!
It sounds like you have some challenges with financial resources. If you want some input about that, start a new topic. Lots of people here can share experiences with that. Are you in the US? It is helpful to know that so we don't advise you to use US resources if that isn't applicable. So mention where you are if you start a new topic.