Mom has been declining over the past few weeks and yesterday stopped eating and drinking. Thanks to this forum I was ready for this. I had read here that if you can see a decline from one month to the next, there’s probably months left. A decline from week to week means there’s probably only weeks left...day to day probably only days left. And this seems to have held true. Today she’s pretty unresponsive and they put her on oxygen just to even out her breathing. She seems comfortable and I will stay and sing to her and hold her hand. I can’t thank you all enough for the support you’ve given me through this.
She is ready and so am I. Please say a little prayer for my darling Ella that this transition is easy for her.
And bless you all.
i realize some posters demonize Nursing Homes, so I’m so thankful that I found one with such humanity. It just shows that Medicare ratings aren’t everything, and sometimes second choices can work out for the best.
Thank you all and I will keep you posted as we move on down the path.
I will swear until my last breath that my dad entered the room behind me and took her hand to accompany her Home just before she was gone.
May those dearest loved by your mother who have preceded her do the same.
I will pray that her final time here on earth is gentle and kind, and that you find peace that you have been an amazing caregiver, and should be proud of how you have lovingly managed her care for so long. Take care of yourself.
Traveling mercies Ella.
God bless you and your mom. You are handling this with such grace. I can only hope that I will be able to do that. I’ve struggled with letting go of people I have lost. I am hoping I won’t do that when it’s my mother’s time. I am going to remember your example and try to follow it.
I pray all will go as well as can be expected to go for both of you. I think it’s lovely of you to sing to her.
My mom’s favorite hymns are, How Great Thou Art, Amazing Grace and Ave Maria.
She and my dad danced to Frank Sinatra. Music is joyful. She will love that. You are a loving, gentle and tender daughter. Your mom is blessed to have you. Hugs and prayers!
Lean on us, Rocket. So we can pass on the support we've all gotten.
My mother passed very peacefully in December a couple of days after she stopped eating and drinking. The previous 6 months she started eating less, lost weight and was sleeping more. They put her on oxygen too at the end. I was more than ready and felt relief for both of us.
After the years of illness, it is a blessing when they pass peacefully. May your mum's transition be an easy one. (((((((hugs))))
I sat with my mother as my step father eased from this life to the next. He was lucky, he had a peaceful death. I stayed with him and Mum until she was ready to go home (he died in the hospital).
The young nurse who was with us did a remarkable job too. It may have been his first death on a shift, but he handled himself well and was able to meet Mum's needs too.