My sister hounded my mother into signing her house over to her, and Mom gets to live in it until she dies. My sister and her husband have a home with a mortgage a few blocks from my Mother’s house. In exchange, my sister will take her to all of her appointments, for groceries, etc. Well, of course, now my sister never shows her face. Mom leaves messages on her voicemail, but my sister doesn’t even call her back. They all live in Ohio and I live in Florida. My sister has always been a difficult narcissist person. I could scream.
But of course the most important thing is what does your mom do now that she needs help. Her primary asset I assume is her home. If she needs it to pay for her care, then she can sell it. Who is getting your moms groceries? Who is taking her for appointments? Check you facts before you make decisions about what is going on. Sometimes at 97, never means since yesterday. At 97 someone has been getting groceries and seeing to things. No doubt you need to lay eyes on mom to see what is going on. Sooner the better.Let us know what you find out.
Mom has Medicare and private pay, as a minister’s wife. She would qualify for Medicaid if she had to go to a NH, since Dad’s social security is her only income.
I think Mom thinks I’m a safe one to talk to since I live so far away. I think she feels overwhelmed. I feel bad for her and I imagine my sister will have terrible karma, fingers crossed.
I echo Countrymouse's question....what does your mother expect you to do about it? Surely you aren't going to pay for your mother's transportation, are you?
I bet your sister got nothing in writing about her duties regarding driving in exchange for signing the title of the house over to her. What happens if your mother needs more care? Does she have any money for that care?
What does she expect you to do about it?
Is this information gathered from your mom? Have you talked to your sister about her side of the story?
Your mother might consider calling Adult Protective Services and reporting this as financial abuse.