Hi AC Forum,
I feel like I run the gamut of emotions on a weekly basis. I think that is a difficult side of this caregiving. Not being able to fully satisfy - or not being able to satisfy for what should be a normnal period of time. And on the same token know that each day you go down this path you just running to the finish line.
It's the craziest and horrible life as I am not able to live my life, yet I have a hard time thinking of my mom living with less. Also not being the face of which she says to at first seeing her and asking her how she is, "Better now that I see you!" Knowing that you are the comfort in their sight. Yet what it takes from one feels enormous - emotionally, monetarily, physically.
How are you doing?
LastOne
I cope by carving out a bit of me time everyday. I get out and walk around the block. Today, I took a long nice hot bath vs. a quick shower. And when things get really tough I just try and count my blessings because believe it or not, there are blessing all around. I have a reasonable portion of my health and strength and I have support from family and friends. And most importantly, I found this forum and it has helped me in more ways than I could ever put into words.
Thanks to everyone here.
Previously cared for my husband, I realized then and there I was not cut out for that job. I have placed my mother in Al, and my step-father and his wife in another one. Still takes up a lot of time, yet, I can just close the door and go home, turn off my phone and have a life.
Sending hugs and support to all.
Thank you.
Have you enlisted your mother with a decent hospice? A good hospice will come alongside and bring to you various equipment to assist your mom, and they will be a great support to you during these tough times. They can show you how to scoot her up higher in bed, and how to treat any bed sores that may be developing.
Perhaps your mother would take to a walker? I can't ice skate very well, but just get me one of those "ice walkers" and I'll out skate anyone! I know she's not trying to ice skate, but it was the only point I could make promoting a walker!
You are truly "under the gun", as it's said, and I will keep you in my prayers. These are tough days, some better, some worse than others, but the Lord can and will give to you strength, purpose, clarity, determination, patience, love, and, yes, even joy!
Philippians 4:13----I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Turn to Him.... before it's too late, and trust Him to save your soul if you haven't already done so....and He will help you, guide you, strengthen you, and give to you peace and comfort during your storms, and He will see you through.
I couldn't have been able to care for my mother, or anyone if I didn't have Jesus as my Savior, helping me and guiding me along the way.
Im praying for you, Buckiiz! Love to you, and Shalom! 🌺🕊🌺
I am praying I never have to go through this with my own parents (who are in decline but still mobile).
In the mean time, can you find someone to come by while you go out a little?
Hug
But, how ever do you manage to work full time, then care for your mother?!? Plus, you Must sleep....we were created to sleep, and to be awake, by God, our creative Maker!
I will pray for you as you are truly "under the gun"....I have no answers, but, I know that the Lord can do anything, and so I'll be praying for you. Shalom. 🌺🕊🌺