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thank you KelleyBean. and thank your mom for me. I keep looking into mom's room to see the covers moving up and down. Of course I have been doing that for years.
ok, here's one. Deadliest Catch marathon is on. I've been crying and had to blow my nose. I sound like the QE2 coming into port. Nik is standing in the living room, hears my foghorn go off and whips his head to the TV thinking that it's a boat horn on the show. crying to laughing in a nanosecond. yay for Nik. yay for KelleyBean too. thank you very much for telling me about your mom's murmur. whew please God not yet.
Ahoy, Maties! I almost missed the boat! (I think while I was at the beach with Kelly) I stayed up till 3:00am reading your posts. OMG! Just call me Destiny! I'm on board with a bunch of drunken sailors! Piratess!!!!! Welcome back!! I've been looking for you. So glad you're on the boat! Well, I'm only on, if...ya'll don't mind cruising through the Soo Locks to pick me up, since I'm near the Great Lakes in Michigan (near the Mackinaw Bridge. O, ~and I'll bring the fudge!). I mean, if you don't mind me not drinking with you. You can call me DD for short (for Designated Driver). I'd have to go to school with you Bobbie. We'll ace this thing; no prob.
And...I'm ETP (easy to please), meaning, I'm on the SEE food diet. Just slap her down and I'm in. I can help cook and bake, too. Biscotti, anyone? I can swab decks, too. And tie a mean knot. Bobbie, better get the barge. Better yet, make it a honking yacht!!! And may I request a landing strip, so we can fly in and out at will. I mean, if we're going to dream, honey, might as well make it a doozie! I'm with ya'll on the Spa, though! Great idea. Don't forget the hot tub. That's a given, right?
Well, happy sailing, mates! Can't wait to shove off. Will have a couple stow aways, my big and little guy. The big one can do anything (a retired carpenter) and the little guy can be very entertaining. Since we homeschool, he'll just bring his books along. He's a whiz at electronic snap circuts, and can make a radio while we're at sea. He can make rope ladders or nets, etc. And the guys can play some mean Monopoly. Scrap that~ Othello, or Euchre anyone?
Don't know how much I'll be on the boat, though, you'll probably find me jumping ship to my current obsession: the beach! In fact, Hwy 2 is soon calling me...OK, maybe after the snow melts... Meanwhile, back to dreaming...ahhhhhhh
Just for the record: I went to sailing and canoeing camp as a kid. Talked hubby into taking me sailing on a Sunfish when I was 7 months preggie, and he can't even swim. Poor soul! Seems I'd forgotten a few things by then, and we couldn't even get the stupid thing to come about. He had to float/wade us to the other side of South Higgins Lake. Some pitying boater had to haul us two slobs back to the State Park. I didn't care, cuz it was a glorious sunshiny day! Hubby probably won't trust me for sailing again. He needs to learn to swim! Right now, I'm dreaming of snorkeling by the islands. I am looking for that glassy sea! Yee haw, Maties, count me in!
Hey, Kelly, my hubby and I met through the personals 12 years ago. Ya never know...
bobbie-luv, I have a heart murmur. They caught it about two minutes after I was born, and after nearly scaring both my parents to death and running a battery of tests on me they decided it was no big deal-the doc said I could run a marathon if I wanted to. When a doctor listens to my heart he hears thump-swish-thump instead of thump-thump-thump. I do have to tell every medical person that I have it tho. so don't panic yet-there are tons of different kinds of murmurs, and even if it's something a little more serious there's still hope. It is absolutely amazing what cardiologists can do today! So hang in there, and keep pestering the doc to give you all of the details about it as soon as he/she figures it out. Until then, we're on the boat with a gen-u-ine pirate and barnacles all over the bottom of the ship, and the spirit of Cap'n Phil Harris guiding us to Aruba and other exotic locations.......
hiyas everyone! we're getting a pretty neat group of ppl here-it's always fun to come and check out the gross-out thread and hear from everybody. Almost like we've made our on little chat room :) miz-hope hubby will start feeling better soon! We're all rooting for ya
just got home from date #2.. we couldnt resist not seeing eachother.. we had dinner at his place and then watched the marathon till i fell asleep on his shoulder.. he was a gentleman.. offered me the spare bedroom.. but i told him maybe another time.. *sigh* BIG TIME...
Mom is in quite the mood today. She enjoyed being home alone for a while lastnight, but this morning.. WHEW!! I swear overnight a bugs done crawled up and planted a great big "woe is me". I really dont like her sleeping during the day so she sleeps at night. But i told her to go take a nap lol.
Hope everyones day is a little brighter than yesterday!
It's Sunday and Mom and I laid around yesterday watching the marathon and getting just a little teary about ol Cap'n Phil Harris.
kelleyBean and Rep and SS and Miz, you guys are the best. You really helped me and Rep, no kidding, a heart murmur all your life. wow.
quiet day and KB, sounds like a great date! We can get a boat with a davit and then we're able to lift loads/Kieth off the dock and place them gently on board.
I have a crazy plan that I'm hatching here that has to do with a pig mask, apple butter and a snowshoe. More later.
SecretSis, welcome back! A landing strip is a fantastic idea, I think. Oh, and I'm also DD :) (lots of alkies in my family, so I avoid it jus to be safe)
kelley-sorry Mom is in such a bug-up-the-butt mood, but at least Keith is going great! It's so wonderful that you met someone so special. I'm still jealous!
bobbie-I hadn't watched Deadliest Catch before, but I knew who the Captain was and I was shocked when he died. The narrator of DC is Mike Rowe, who has his own show called Dirty Jobs, and that's the one I'm hooked on (that and Mythbusters). He has a dreamy voice.......sorry, got lost for a second. And I'm almost afraid to ask....a pig's mask, apple butter and a snowshoe? At least it's not boring.
Hi everyone.. Again cant sleep. Moms sour mood turned worse today. Of course, that led me to be in a sour mood. i should have known better. i always give in to the attitude. i know she doesnt understand how she treats me sometimes, i know she doesnt know what what shes doing or saying half the time. and silly me tries to tell her why im upset, talk about it instead of just stewing.. and she just turns her back on me. but im expected to sit and listen to whatever she has to say..
she basically trapped me in a corner the other night and stared at me for 2 hours and still wondered why i was getting so upset. she was sitting there yelling out numbers to me.. she doesnt realize she cant count very well anymore and she was making no sense and thought me stupid for not following what she was saying.. accused me of stealing again..then called me stupid because i mixed up 2 bills(which there were no 2 bills)
i finally threw a temper tantrum and told her to get out of my face or i wasnt doing one more $%^& thing for her..
i know alot of people complain about their siblings and whatnot and i try not to.. but.. when shes on one of her "kelley stole" tyraids.. i just want to give up.. my brother then gets involved and im sick of the interrogation... i screamed at my mom last time.. "where is all the money im getting from these stolen objects? i barely eat, because im not allowed to, so its not there, i dont go out, so its not THERE.. MY bills havent been paid in over a year so its not there either....so what am i doing with the gains of stolen objects?" she says "i dont know, but i KNOW youve been stealing it all"
quite honestly, if people had to go through what i go through when "somethings been stolen" no one would ever steal again..
i know i know i know.. its the dementia.. she loses things and blames it on others..... got that.. but $%^&!!!!!!!
If your mom only has a few hairs left, a toothbrush is perfect. I've used mine to comb my eyebrows, never someone else's. I'm fussy -- if not overly territorial -- about personal hygiene items and underwear.
My sons, when they started dating at 16, snuck into my bedroom one evening and borrowed some satin boxers, had them dry cleaned a couple of days later, and put them back in the drawer. I thought I had misplaced them, but when I noticed they weren't folded military style I literally snapped. And, of course, I let my sons have it while I burned the boxers in the backyard.
Around that time my mother came to spend a few days with us, but forgot to bring toiletries. I gave her a traveling kits, a washcloth, and bath towel. She put them in her suitcase. I was playing a tennis tournament that weekend, and in the constant I didn't rush didn't pay much attention to the fact that my toothbrush, antiperspirant, and towel were damp and out of place. She was using them, but lied straight to my face with such sincere expression I almost believed her. So I went to her suitcase and found the traveling kit and towels in mint condition. She kept saying "But I'm your mother," but to me that's a built in excuse to wrong your children and then expect them to feel grateful. To make a long story short, she was on the next Amtrak to New Brunswick, NJ that same afternoon.
I'm not sure which is more disgusting: my sons' privates in my boxers or mom's jibber-jabber wrapped around my toothbrush. That's a violation I'll never forgive and never forget. I can share a lot of things, but personal items are just that: personal.
Hello Ship Mates!! I was sad to hear about Phil too. He was too darn young for that.
I'm going through all the posts that I missed when I was out of town. Hubby's back is better but still not good. He got some anti-inflammatories but he's still in pain and his stomach hurts today. Poor guy. :( He's driving my boss and I to a class tomorrow. It's a 3 hour drive. I hope he's up to it. He gets to go antiquing while we have our class. He loves to do that.
SS, so nice to see you!! Kelley, so glad things are going well with your guy. I hope it continues!! You soooo deserve it!! bobbie, I hope it's not serious with your mom. I do know people can live normal lives with heart murmurs as some on here have indicated.
Kelley, i'm so sorry about what you've been going through with your mom. That has got to be so frustrating, angry making, infuriating and so on and so forth.
I feel for all of you. I take care of my 86 year old Dad and feel there is pee all over my house. I should own stock in plug ins and bleach. What I recommed you to do it to keep things you dont want her to get into out of her reach. Its more work for you but you have peace of mind that it is ok you to use.
Hi all! What a growing thread! Our trials brought us here, and our dreams will take us away. Hope you're all feeling well, and your loved ones doing better today, miz, Kell, Bobbie, et al... I'm the the canal, heading toward the open waters today. Probate paperwork calls. Watch the rocks and undertow. (SOS!) I'm looking for the lighthouse and smooth sailing. A little snow this morn, and hope no storm's a brewin'! I wishing the same for ya'll, fellow island hoppers! Welcome Ed and Nancy! G'day!
Hello everyone, been away for a while, got so excited about the Basketball games I spilled beer on my keyboard, had to air it out, then it still didn't work so I had to change keyboards all together. Been working too.
Haven't read all the threads, but i will and I'm hoping everyone and your loved ones had a great weekend, or as close to it as possible. Hope you found a little me time, and a little family time.
Welcome to Nancy, hope you're gearing up for a wam-bam-cruise as we continue to prepare.
You want gross? My m-i-l has used her hairbrush before to brush her teeth and was it nasty trying to get the toothpaste off her hairbrush! She has also brushed her teeth with the toothbrush and toothpaste. I thought, "OK, I can leave and come back." WRONG!!!!!!! After she got done with the toothbrush in her teeth, she proceeded to brush her hair with the same toothbrush! Yuck! Another is she used the garbage can for urinating in, which was next to the toilet. Now the gc is right outside the bathroom. She's deficated on the carpet by her brown chair (A wise investment in a carpet shampooer!), she's urinated on the carpet as well as the bathroom floor. She also deficated on the bathroom floor at a different time. All of this is YUCK! Just by seeing what she has done with her toothbrush and hairbrush, whenever it's shower day for her, (she has to use the one upstairs, because that's the only shower) and we use that one (that's the main b/r). I remove all toothbrushes and hairbrushes and combs. I throw out the disposable cups (I don't want her fingering them) Half the time that she goes to the b/r, she forgets to wash her hands unless someone's with her. BTW, my youngest s-i-l comes over to help give her shower. But I put everything up that's in her reach. I change the towels after she's out of there and out to lunch with my s-i-l.
This isn't as gross, but she misunderstood what I said. I told her to wash her hands with soap and water. She proceeded to the sink, while I turned on the water and pointed to the soap that she was to use. I just went in the next room to start laundry, came back and found she was starting to wash her hair with the hand soap. It was right before bed too! I had to wash her hair with the shampoo and get the hand soap out of her hair before it dried and became itchy. Luckily, she didn't have to get up early for anything the next morning.
the line: '...my mom's jibber jabber wrapped around my toothbrush.' Ed. that's hilarious. What did you sons say during the boxer shorts roast? Grossed out by your boys' boys!
KelleyBean, my mom used to do the same to me as far as the accusations and she can still shoot a stink eye with the best of them. Not funny. I used to have to hear almost daily about how I did drugs in HS and I slept around, etc etc. I never did drugs in HS and I never slept around, etc. etc. but that didn't stop her from telling me what I did and who I was for a long time. The LAST time she pulled that I literally blew up. I called her the C word and told her what the truth was and added so help me God, if you say that to me one more time I'm dropping you off at Shady Acres. That was about 18 months ago and I have never heard it again. I felt bad about blowing up so hard but jeez, listening to that was not on the list. And, for me in this instance, it worked.
She doesn't accuse me anymore but i still get a good dose of stink eye on a regular basis and you're right, it will put you in a bad mood unless you follow Trawler Bob's recommendations:
1) say to your mom: I'm going to the store to get some cigarettes. 2) don't go back. 3) call brother and alert him to the new developments. 4) Send postcard from Aruba
I know that's all bs and not an answer but don't stop dreaming about what you want!!
Have the cardiologist appt this week for mom and we shall see what we shall see.
People in NJ are mad at me for not flying in today and I can't take that either. It feels like everyone wants a piece.
Mom and I are going to look at some little used motorhomes today, It's beautiful here in SoCal and a road trip might be the answer. I'm bored bored bored with all of this, I have to get mom back to NJ dead or alive (Daddy's there with a spot next to him for mom), so in my crazy reasoning alive is better and since I have mega road experience (road comedian for years) I started looking for 'land yachts' and found some affordable ones so today I will find out whether they suck and are gross or if it's all doable. KelleyBean, if we do the motorhome thing, we will be coming up through your way! Where's everybody? We would go across on the 10, possibly go to Fla since I want to look at the Cape Coral/Ft. Meyers area because there's some cheep housing options down there with boat docks built in!
Big plans beats big drama. Love you guys and check in later.
Did you guys ever see Muppet Treasure Island? There's a song in there called Cabin Fever, and one of the lines goes "this once proud vessel has become a floating psycho ward." I think I'm there......whee....
Big, BIG hug Kelley-I know no one wants to shout at the person they're caring for, but, dangit, didn't it feel GOOD? My mom doesn't do the stinkeye, she does the movement control. You stand up, "Where're you going?" You start taking out the trash, "What are you doing?" You take a breath, "Yes?" I try to talk to my father in the kitchen while she's in the living room, "What? What are you saying?" &!@#$$!%! Flockin' leave me alone!!!! ugh. And she doesn't have dementia, so I can't even logically explain her behavior. So, anyways, hope things get better.
bobbie-enjoy your road trip & good luck buying a mobile home & good luck at the docs! But, is she still going to nh or not? Does it depend on what you find out with the heart murmur?
Oh, since I'm rambling anyway, you guys wanna know how my mind works? Didya see how many posts we're up to? Over 200. when someone new comes to the site and they see the topic "Grossed out" with over two hundred posts, they'll either start to laugh or scream, maybe both :) Welcome to all newcomers
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ok, here's one. Deadliest Catch marathon is on. I've been crying and had to blow my nose. I sound like the QE2 coming into port. Nik is standing in the living room, hears my foghorn go off and whips his head to the TV thinking that it's a boat horn on the show.
crying to laughing in a nanosecond. yay for Nik.
yay for KelleyBean too. thank you very much for telling me about your mom's murmur. whew please God not yet.
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And...I'm ETP (easy to please), meaning, I'm on the SEE food diet. Just slap her down and I'm in. I can help cook and bake, too. Biscotti, anyone? I can swab decks, too. And tie a mean knot. Bobbie, better get the barge. Better yet, make it a honking yacht!!! And may I request a landing strip, so we can fly in and out at will. I mean, if we're going to dream, honey, might as well make it a doozie! I'm with ya'll on the Spa, though! Great idea. Don't forget the hot tub. That's a given, right?
Well, happy sailing, mates! Can't wait to shove off. Will have a couple stow aways, my big and little guy. The big one can do anything (a retired carpenter) and the little guy can be very entertaining. Since we homeschool, he'll just bring his books along. He's a whiz at electronic snap circuts, and can make a radio while we're at sea. He can make rope ladders or nets, etc. And the guys can play some mean Monopoly. Scrap that~ Othello, or Euchre anyone?
Don't know how much I'll be on the boat, though, you'll probably find me jumping ship to my current obsession: the beach! In fact, Hwy 2 is soon calling me...OK, maybe after the snow melts... Meanwhile, back to dreaming...ahhhhhhh
Just for the record: I went to sailing and canoeing camp as a kid. Talked hubby into taking me sailing on a Sunfish when I was 7 months preggie, and he can't even swim. Poor soul! Seems I'd forgotten a few things by then, and we couldn't even get the stupid thing to come about. He had to float/wade us to the other side of South Higgins Lake. Some pitying boater had to haul us two slobs back to the State Park. I didn't care, cuz it was a glorious sunshiny day! Hubby probably won't trust me for sailing again. He needs to learn to swim! Right now, I'm dreaming of snorkeling by the islands. I am looking for that glassy sea! Yee haw, Maties, count me in!
Hey, Kelly, my hubby and I met through the personals 12 years ago. Ya never know...
Really, Bobbie, ~barnacles? Too much!
G'day, Mates!
hiyas everyone! we're getting a pretty neat group of ppl here-it's always fun to come and check out the gross-out thread and hear from everybody. Almost like we've made our on little chat room :) miz-hope hubby will start feeling better soon! We're all rooting for ya
just got home from date #2.. we couldnt resist not seeing eachother.. we had dinner at his place and then watched the marathon till i fell asleep on his shoulder.. he was a gentleman.. offered me the spare bedroom.. but i told him maybe another time.. *sigh* BIG TIME...
welcome aboard SS!!
rep.. you're a star!!
Mom is in quite the mood today. She enjoyed being home alone for a while lastnight, but this morning.. WHEW!! I swear overnight a bugs done crawled up and planted a great big "woe is me". I really dont like her sleeping during the day so she sleeps at night. But i told her to go take a nap lol.
Hope everyones day is a little brighter than yesterday!
It's Sunday and Mom and I laid around yesterday watching the marathon and getting just a little teary about ol Cap'n Phil Harris.
kelleyBean and Rep and SS and Miz, you guys are the best. You really helped me and Rep, no kidding, a heart murmur all your life. wow.
quiet day and KB, sounds like a great date! We can get a boat with a davit and then we're able to lift loads/Kieth off the dock and place them gently on board.
I have a crazy plan that I'm hatching here that has to do with a pig mask, apple butter and a snowshoe. More later.
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kelley-sorry Mom is in such a bug-up-the-butt mood, but at least Keith is going great! It's so wonderful that you met someone so special. I'm still jealous!
bobbie-I hadn't watched Deadliest Catch before, but I knew who the Captain was and I was shocked when he died. The narrator of DC is Mike Rowe, who has his own show called Dirty Jobs, and that's the one I'm hooked on (that and Mythbusters). He has a dreamy voice.......sorry, got lost for a second. And I'm almost afraid to ask....a pig's mask, apple butter and a snowshoe? At least it's not boring.
Again cant sleep. Moms sour mood turned worse today. Of course, that led me to be in a sour mood. i should have known better. i always give in to the attitude. i know she doesnt understand how she treats me sometimes, i know she doesnt know what what shes doing or saying half the time. and silly me tries to tell her why im upset, talk about it instead of just stewing.. and she just turns her back on me. but im expected to sit and listen to whatever she has to say..
she basically trapped me in a corner the other night and stared at me for 2 hours and still wondered why i was getting so upset. she was sitting there yelling out numbers to me.. she doesnt realize she cant count very well anymore and she was making no sense and thought me stupid for not following what she was saying.. accused me of stealing again..then called me stupid because i mixed up 2 bills(which there were no 2 bills)
i finally threw a temper tantrum and told her to get out of my face or i wasnt doing one more $%^& thing for her..
i know alot of people complain about their siblings and whatnot and i try not to.. but.. when shes on one of her "kelley stole" tyraids.. i just want to give up.. my brother then gets involved and im sick of the interrogation... i screamed at my mom last time.. "where is all the money im getting from these stolen objects? i barely eat, because im not allowed to, so its not there, i dont go out, so its not THERE.. MY bills havent been paid in over a year so its not there either....so what am i doing with the gains of stolen objects?" she says "i dont know, but i KNOW youve been stealing it all"
quite honestly, if people had to go through what i go through when "somethings been stolen" no one would ever steal again..
i know i know i know.. its the dementia.. she loses things and blames it on others..... got that.. but $%^&!!!!!!!
Sorry to be so blunt.
I understand the $*#_! There is a better way.
If your mom only has a few hairs left, a toothbrush is perfect. I've used mine to comb my eyebrows, never someone else's.
I'm fussy -- if not overly territorial -- about personal hygiene items and underwear.
My sons, when they started dating at 16, snuck into my bedroom one evening and borrowed some satin boxers, had them dry cleaned a couple of days later, and put them back in the drawer. I thought I had misplaced them, but when I noticed they weren't folded military style I literally snapped. And, of course, I let my sons have it while I burned the boxers in the backyard.
Around that time my mother came to spend a few days with us, but forgot to bring toiletries. I gave her a traveling kits, a washcloth, and bath towel. She put them in her suitcase. I was playing a tennis tournament that weekend, and in the constant I didn't rush didn't pay much attention to the fact that my toothbrush, antiperspirant, and towel were damp and out of place. She was using them, but lied straight to my face with such sincere expression I almost believed her. So I went to her suitcase and found the traveling kit and towels in mint condition. She kept saying "But I'm your mother," but to me that's a built in excuse to wrong your children and then expect them to feel grateful. To make a long story short, she was on the next Amtrak to New Brunswick, NJ that same afternoon.
I'm not sure which is more disgusting: my sons' privates in my boxers or mom's jibber-jabber wrapped around my toothbrush.
That's a violation I'll never forgive and never forget. I can share a lot of things, but personal items are just that: personal.
I'm going through all the posts that I missed when I was out of town. Hubby's back is better but still not good. He got some anti-inflammatories but he's still in pain and his stomach hurts today. Poor guy. :( He's driving my boss and I to a class tomorrow. It's a 3 hour drive. I hope he's up to it. He gets to go antiquing while we have our class. He loves to do that.
Haven't read all the threads, but i will and I'm hoping everyone and your loved ones had a great weekend, or as close to it as possible. Hope you found a little me time, and a little family time.
Welcome to Nancy, hope you're gearing up for a wam-bam-cruise as we continue to prepare.
Have a great day everyone!
Pam
she's urinated on the carpet as well as the bathroom floor. She also deficated on the bathroom floor at a different time. All of this is YUCK! Just by seeing what she has done with her toothbrush and hairbrush, whenever it's shower day for her,
(she has to use the one upstairs, because that's the only shower) and we use that one (that's the main b/r). I remove all toothbrushes and hairbrushes and combs. I throw out the disposable cups (I don't want her fingering them) Half the time that she goes to the b/r, she forgets to wash her hands unless someone's with her. BTW, my youngest s-i-l comes over to help give her shower. But I put everything up that's in her reach. I change the towels after she's out of there and out to lunch with my s-i-l.
This isn't as gross, but she misunderstood what I said. I told her to wash her hands with soap and water. She proceeded to the sink, while I turned on the water and pointed to the soap that she was to use. I just went in the next room to start laundry, came back and found she was starting to wash her hair with the hand soap. It was right before bed too! I had to wash her hair with the shampoo and get the hand soap out
of her hair before it dried and became itchy. Luckily, she didn't have to get up early for anything the next morning.
the line: '...my mom's jibber jabber wrapped around my toothbrush.' Ed. that's hilarious.
What did you sons say during the boxer shorts roast? Grossed out by your boys' boys!
KelleyBean, my mom used to do the same to me as far as the accusations and she can still shoot a stink eye with the best of them. Not funny. I used to have to hear almost daily about how I did drugs in HS and I slept around, etc etc. I never did drugs in HS and I never slept around, etc. etc. but that didn't stop her from telling me what I did and who I was for a long time.
The LAST time she pulled that I literally blew up. I called her the C word and told her what the truth was and added so help me God, if you say that to me one more time I'm dropping you off at Shady Acres.
That was about 18 months ago and I have never heard it again. I felt bad about blowing up so hard but jeez, listening to that was not on the list. And, for me in this instance, it worked.
She doesn't accuse me anymore but i still get a good dose of stink eye on a regular basis and you're right, it will put you in a bad mood unless you follow Trawler Bob's recommendations:
1) say to your mom: I'm going to the store to get some cigarettes.
2) don't go back.
3) call brother and alert him to the new developments.
4) Send postcard from Aruba
I know that's all bs and not an answer but don't stop dreaming about what you want!!
Have the cardiologist appt this week for mom and we shall see what we shall see.
People in NJ are mad at me for not flying in today and I can't take that either. It feels like everyone wants a piece.
Mom and I are going to look at some little used motorhomes today, It's beautiful here in SoCal and a road trip might be the answer. I'm bored bored bored with all of this, I have to get mom back to NJ dead or alive (Daddy's there with a spot next to him for mom), so in my crazy reasoning alive is better and since I have mega road experience (road comedian for years) I started looking for 'land yachts' and found some affordable ones so today I will find out whether they suck and are gross or if it's all doable.
KelleyBean, if we do the motorhome thing, we will be coming up through your way! Where's everybody? We would go across on the 10, possibly go to Fla since I want to look at the Cape Coral/Ft. Meyers area because there's some cheep housing options down there with boat docks built in!
Big plans beats big drama.
Love you guys and check in later.
lovbob
We're leaving in 5 min to check out motorhomes.
I know this is nuts, but for some reason it makes sense to me.
Hard to see mom;s stink eye while I'm driving. Love to drive, no kidding. Drive the box the thing came in, no worries.
For the first time in ages, I'm excited. AnyHoo, when the time comes the little motorhome will make a great deposit on our boat!
KelleyBean.... we'll be coming up 95.
No solid plans yet, mom;s cardiologist appt is Thurs, but no harm in looking!
Welcome to our new crew: Nancy, Lach, Ed, betcha I missed some.
Pamela! That was a big laugh for me. got excited about the B-Ball and spilled beer on the keyboard. Funny!
Back in a few hours with update!!
lovbob
Big, BIG hug Kelley-I know no one wants to shout at the person they're caring for, but, dangit, didn't it feel GOOD? My mom doesn't do the stinkeye, she does the movement control. You stand up, "Where're you going?" You start taking out the trash, "What are you doing?" You take a breath, "Yes?" I try to talk to my father in the kitchen while she's in the living room, "What? What are you saying?" &!@#$$!%! Flockin' leave me alone!!!! ugh. And she doesn't have dementia, so I can't even logically explain her behavior. So, anyways, hope things get better.
bobbie-enjoy your road trip & good luck buying a mobile home & good luck at the docs! But, is she still going to nh or not? Does it depend on what you find out with the heart murmur?
Oh, since I'm rambling anyway, you guys wanna know how my mind works? Didya see how many posts we're up to? Over 200. when someone new comes to the site and they see the topic "Grossed out" with over two hundred posts, they'll either start to laugh or scream, maybe both :) Welcome to all newcomers
I havent pulled the "im an adult and know what im doing" card yet.. it seems so weird when im living in her house etc..