Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
This is the neighbour who has caused me grief over snow clearing and lawn mowing and always seems to find a way to retaliate whenever I interact, my policy is to cheerfully say hello but limit any other interactions lest it lead to something unpleasant. I can just imagine that if there is a fence it will be one that is ugly on my side.
Margaret - my dad always said "good fences make good neighbours", amongst my old farm neighbours there is a dispute between two families that has been carrying on for generations over boundary slights.
"Got Milk?"
So popular, that a political candidate used: "Got Wilk?" and it was understood.
Your co-worker's attitude would bother anyone who is conscientious.
So you have heard that depression is anger turned inward?
(I know you have, just putting it out there for newbies).
Unexpressed anger is the cause, so it is good that you are expressing it.
You did the right thing by sending a request for milk to be brought in the morning. You will be the hero when you suggest that powdered milk be kept supplied for emergencies? My loved one who passed loved buttermilk. Hard to keep milk in supply though.
But the part that gets my goat, why is the co-worker over your shoulder telling you what to write?
On double-up round yesterday evening (2 workers to each client). I was filling in the notes and heard
"No, don't put he hasn't got milk."
"Sorry?"
"Don't write there isn't enough milk."
"Er. Why?"
"They'll say we have to go get some and I don't want to."
I didn't actually disagree that it wasn't the best idea for us to try to track down an open grocery store on a wet evening in Bromyard - I sent a message to the shift leader asking the morning shift to bring some milk with them - but seriously? You don't want to document a problem in case you're expected to do something about it?
I will say this for my co-worker, she's certainly quick, and the clients really like her. But I was beginning to lose it by the end of the shift when I heard "don't worry about it" for the fortieth time. I DO worry about it, if by worry she means bother.
You're puzzled about their cutting their hedge down, and wondering what if anything is going in its place. Any reason it would be a problem for them to know that? It's not like you're prying.
Remember Jessebelle's mother, who would go outside and 'garden' by chopping down plants and bushes? Randomly, and destructively?
Maybe your neighbor has a dementia or Alzheimer's, and you will be the first to know, and call attention to the dysfunction with neighbor's family? Watch out for your own garden though. It could be next.
What a shame, a living green hedge, and not enough time before winter to grow something nice.
Were the roots pulled up too?
Oh, I hope it was not removed for solar panels?
How high was the cedar hedge? High enough to block sun light? It’s sometimes a hot topic here, with so many solar panels. At least there would be some logic to dealing with sunlight, although of course discussing it has even more than logic! Good luck with neighborly relations.
My container garden and compost pile both backed on to the hedge so now they can have full view of the sad, previously shaded side of the garden and my big pile of brush. Hope they like it😉
(And why would anyone cut down a perfectly healthy privacy hedge anyway?)
When I moved to my home there was a cedar hedge completely surrounding the house on one side (there is also a partial hedge on the property on the other side) and I've got to say the privacy was a real selling feature. Today I stepped outside to discover the hedge between us lying on the ground - I'd already been made to understand that this was "their" hedge so I guess they have every right to remove it, but wouldn't it be normal to give your neighbour a heads up? I'm just.... flabbergasted.
(I'm really hoping they plan to build a fence 🤔)
Mediating this chaos, drama, and misinformation in my mind for now. Trying to understand other's grief. Offer grace and
mercy to people who practice divination, follow doctrines of demons....it hurts me to see this.
Housing... You are a senior @ 55
To get help from the senior center... You are 62 or older
To collect social security in the US,... you retire at 65
Rarely can a woman have it both ways: Lie about our age being younger; or be old enough to get that discount!
Thinking I am going to start lying about my age.
Wait! There may be a Pepperidge Farm outlet near me!
We received a notice that our community pool is opening today.
Just as the Governor, County, City, and Health Dept. are closing down most everything again. Somebody has gotta be wrong.
No longer listening, but complying with the strictest mandates and orders. Then, when they deem it safe to open for economy reasons, I continue to comply with the strictest previous orders.
I actually like the new protocols at the dentist better than what used to be standard practice, as far as I'm concerned they can do away with all the rinsing (usually with icy cold water - ouch!) and consequent suction permanently.
We are seeing the same thing now with mask use, it was "strongly suggested" both federally and provincially that people wear some kind of face covering when physical distancing can't be guaranteed, but what exactly does that mean? Until local health units began mandating it was not common at all in my area, our mask mandate goes into effect next Friday and today was the first day I have been out that mask users possibly outnumbered those who don't.
On the whole Canada has done fairly well - very well other than Quebec and Ontario, Hopefully we all will be better prepared for the next one, and there will be a next one.
For those with real need there is a loophole that apparently many people have used successfully, while the land border is closed flights are still taking off and landing between our two countries.
There was a terribly said story in the NYT the other day about nurses from around the country who voluntarily came to NYC and height of our numbers. Returning home to their communities, they are being told that this disease is a hoax. Very sad. Very disturbing.