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venting,

I know that, but it would be fun to meet up for something totally unrelated to caregiving! Sorry about my comment. I’m not making light of yours or Way’s situation.

I guess that I can say things related to non caregiving more easily because my parents are deceased.

I feel for y’all. I really do!
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Way and I are entering the facility next week, so I guess I’m free this weekend, Need. We can meet and watch a caregiving movie. JUST KIDDING.
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Need,

come with us . It has happy hour along with Bingo , and trivia with Drinks and chicken wings !

The prizes are burnts senior brat dolls .
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venting,

LOL 😂

Count me out on that! I reached my threshold of pain in caregiving long ago! Don’t need to watch a movie. Unfortunately, I lived it!

Wait a minute! Way just sweetened the deal! Happy hour sounds great! I will even buy the first round! Oooooh, and appetizers too! 😊
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Way, our facility doesn’t sound so bad. I LOVE chicken wings. Looks like being a broken-down caregiver is totally worth it.
:)
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Haha Need, you lived it.
Hey Way and Need, thanks. It’s the first time today I’m laughing.

Need, about having lived it:
Yeah, we could be IN the movie. One of us could direct. Roll Camera Action! We don’t even need to act. Our caregiving experiences ARE the movie.
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Way and venting,

I know that it’s frustrating to be caught up in a loop. The never ending cycle…
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Seriously though ,

Like Mid , not my monkey not my circus . It’s not my parent .

I’m going to have to try to turn off the nurse in me that is upset about what I think is disgusting neglect . I tried .

Unlike Mid’s MiL , my FIL is in a facility . I didn’t expect him to be sitting in filth but he is .

Mid and her family still have it worse .
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venting,

There’s a reality show in this somewhere! 😆

May I be in it? I can be the person who was the totally lost soul! I’m finally free and cheering the others on by saying, “Please, don’t make the same mistakes that I did!!!”
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That’s the title of the movie:
“The never-ending cycle”

starring:
Everyone on the forum

It starts with all of us eating chicken wings (BEFORE caregiving). We have no idea what’s about to hit us.
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Yes Way, we all should turn off sometimes. (((Hug)))
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Amen to that!
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You’re totally in it, Need! You can be the director. You call out the scenes AND also you’re in it.
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Yes! Fitting name for it, venting.

Thanks, we already know that we would have a lot of people who could relate to us!

My therapist has to play a part too! LOL 😆
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The movie must end on a good note. (Don’t know how we’re going to do that).
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By the way, I have to say that I stole the line “I have reached the threshold of my pain from my husband!” LOL 😆

We were buying our very first brand new car. My husband had a figure in his head that he was not going to go over.

The salesman kept trying to up sell him. My husband can’t be sold. He buys when he is satisfied. He always says that it’s never a good deal unless both parties are happy.

My husband is Mr. Chill, a very even keeled man.

Finally my husband calmly says to him, “I have reached my threshold of pain. Call me when you want to sell the car to me for what it’s actually worth.”

I really wanted the car but knew not to show that to the salesman. We walked out and I said to my husband that I loved that car! DH said, “Me too, but at a fair price. He will call. Be patient.”

The salesman called three weeks later and sold it at what my husband offered.

DH is the middle child. So am I. We are the best negotiators at getting the best deal!
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venting,

It can end with us drinking a cocktail on a luxury cruise! 😊
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I like the ending! :)
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Laughing is good .

Soon I’m doing a short beach trip for a few days with my almost 27 year old daughter. . She has had a bit of her own issue going on . Trying to cheer her up .
Our first Mother daughter get away .

I feel kinda bad I’m leaving DH behind though .
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Our movie will have lots of laughter. (Don’t know how we’re going to do that, but I think the therapist will be involved in cracking jokes. Turns out his FIL is also very hard to deal with.)

We’ll also insert some little cats. Just because.

Every scene will involve chicken wings in some way.

Way and I as planned, meet at Bingo in the movie. At first we don’t recognize each other. It’s all very mysterious. (Enter: mysterious music)

During caregiving scenes, we have THE MUSIC FROM JAWS.
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Need , venting ,

NO Cruise , my FIL always wants that from us.
It can be a beach resort or Europe or anything else .

Needs therapist could do a cameo but be the bartender . Lol
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Way! 😂 LOL 😆 love the cameo!

Okay, no cruise. Fair enough…you can pick the destination!
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venting,

😂 Love the music from Jaws idea!
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Way,

Enjoy your beach trip!
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Way, I'm not sure I understand why you or DH are showing up to do stuff for FIL.

When my mom was in IL I came once a week to set up her meds and take her shopping because I wanted to see her. If she had been a PITA, I wouldn't have shown up.

Facility did her linens; personal laundry could be done for a fee.
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Barb.

They do his linens, laundry , housekeeping in AL . We don’t do that . I volunteer doing his laundry while he was in rehab only so things don’t get lost . I tried spraying to make his room smell better . The couch and a chair need to be thrown out is my guess. But they belong to AL except the recliner that we got him .
FIL removes protective pads if you put any on the furniture . He says he does not need them because he’s not wet . He needs to be in memory care with vinyl chairs. After 16 months of this , I don’t see him turning around . I suggested memory care but so far , a no go . DH doesn’t want to be the bad guy and deal with FIL . That is all I can do. I’m hoping AL soon says it’s necessary to move to MC.
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We’ll have to continue calling ourselves by our names, in the movie:
…NeedHelpWithMom
…Way2Tired

We can’t suddenly be Penelope, Geraldine…

Agreed, the therapist will be the bartender. I’ll order a strong shot of milk! (I don’t like alcohol).

Daisy gets a dressing room. In fact, every little cat gets one. We, however, must all share one.
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venting,

At least make it chocolate milk!
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Good idea!!! That had never occurred to me.
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Lol. Thank you !!!

All of that!!

Only I’ll have strawberry lemonade please .

I don’t really like alcohol much either !
An occasional glass of wine if with friends , which happens rarely anyway .
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