Somebody I follow, and I don't remember who, had posted "on my mind"......
If they are giving you a hard time.....They are having a hard time.
THIS has helped me so much! When Mom gets cranky and demanding, I draw out of her what is bothering her, because she can't articulate it on her own. It usually comes down to the lack of independence and control over something small, but knowing what it is, I can either fix it, or help her accept it.
Now I follow quite a few brilliant woman, (and Bob of course) and I would really like to thank you again for this wisdom.
I wanted to discuss it for the newbies that might learn what I did. It has been a game changer for me.I am so much less stressed.
Ok, fess up. Who was it??? You deserve applause!
A friend urged me to do this. Feels like it's going to be a good thing. My Dad is in a home in another town with Alzheimer's and he wants to do everything and can't because he thinks he's fine so he must be locked up. We've tried companions and I go often to visit. He has a better attitude, but he can't accept that he failed his comprehensive tests. HeUsed to be a brilliant man, and it's very sad to see him in jail so to speak. It's been tough coping and watching, but I have my good days and bad days.
No desire to do anything is a big sign of depression. I would discuss that with her Dr. Good luck and come back often. Sometimes I come when I'm frustrated or exhausted and read stories much worse than mine. It puts things in perspective.
chemical restraint you say ? i have drugs that make your thorazine look like flintstones vitamins ..
i watched my aunt struggle with cutting up a tough sausage paddy at breakfast the other morning . i saw a couple of old girls looking quizically at me wondering why i didnt do it for edna . because edna has been a wild game butcher for 90 years . she dont need my help to hack up a piece of cooked sausage . she got it , it just took a minute or so because she had the wrong knife for the job .. i dont talk to her like shes a child . i talk to her like shes my intellectual superior -- because she is ..