I am asking because this is a website, where I thought that there is no such thing as a dumb question and the woman (vegaslady) you or man answered it very politely. Sometimes, we need to verbalize things to put them in place. Have a great evening.
D.
I've pissed people off on every forum I've been on. I've been called a troll. I've been called 'mean', 'nasty', a cold-blooded b***h, flat out. It always astounds me. I never see it coming. To me, I'm just being honest. For example, on another forum a couple weeks ago this chick is talking about her miserable home life. Everyone treats her like crap because she didn't go to college like her brother did. Everyone around her abuses her, which resulted in a massive meltdown that left her lying in the fetal position, 'rage-sobbing' as she put it, and couldn't function. This chick is 20-something. When I suggested a job, a couple of roommates and a nice, quiet apartment were in order, people didn't like that. I've been accused of having no empathy.
Whatever.
I get tired of tip toeing through everyone else's massive tulip fields and having to encase every single word I say in sugary sweetness. I've noticed this social requirement especially in the 20-something crowd. Can't say boo to them without causing great offense. It gets old.
If grown adults can't handle honesty then they're a tad too fragile to be on the net with all of us 'meanies' and that includes my own two 20-something year olds who act 5 sometimes. I get real tired of their sulking, and that's all of them.
And if people want to go off on a tangent around here, I'm all for it. If people don't like what they're reading, skip it. Caregivers need tangents. lol
i too learned ( in masonry training ) that there is sometimes such a thing as a dumb question. asking , was the lazy way out sometimes. if i had a studious mindset and figured it out on my own it saved a lot of pointless chatter. often to this day when i explain something complicated to my son, he'll tell me " got ya " as soon as he gets the drift. it tells me hes thinking on his own a bit.. conversation is expedited and more ground is covered..
so why am i chattering this am ? cause the coffee is unusually black.
ive been to the va today and im being approved for the new hep c treatment. it has a success rate in the 90% + range. ive been beaten senseless by the older meds 3 times with no results. this is a HUGE deal..
sarcasm , insults , hurled crap, ALL welcomed. i can take it tonight.
I appreciate the answers, and I also have to be honest with myself. When I am writing for an answer, I am probably (in a caregiving situation) at a high level of stress, and it is very easy to misinterpret anything, when you are in a situation that there is care giving stress of any kind.
Speaking of that . . . I am taking 5 days off with my husband . . . and I am so happy, because I haven't had that many days off in a row for two years. We are just going to drive 5 hours from where we live and stay in a cabin. PEACE. I feel it coming.
Happy Day everyone.
I think if I put all of the answers together, I have my answer.
Now, I have been rude on a few occasions. It's usually when someone goes on and on with something until it gets on my last nerve. I know I should just ignore and go on, but I am so far from being perfect. Sometimes the devil makes me type something. Great excuse -- the devil made me do it. 3:)
And I will admit that I've read when a poster asked a question. And another poster said that she had the mentality of a teenager. Now, that just plain pissed me off. This was a NEW poster and was seeking answers. Yes, we see those questions over and over. But, being New, I knew that this poster wasn't familiar enough to navigate the website. And No Other posters reprimanded or nay-say this "rude" poster. So, I jumped in and "corrected" her.
Truly, there is NO dumb question. It's just our level of knowledge based on how long we've been caregiving. Wisdom based on experience.
I've been at this caregiving for a long time and have developed "thick skin" in my opinion many on here have too. I would now consider it Wisdom!! But I also have to deal with changes in my Mom's dementia that are new to me and I find them scary and frightening at times.. Of course when I ask a question it sounds dumb to me but I always sift through the response and find I'm not the first to ask the question..I always use the search feature first so I'm not being repetitive..
Carol
Please keep coming back and don't let one answer dissuade you.
Carol