My mother is an alcoholic and in poor health. She lives with her 89yo husband who has dementia and also drinks. My mother's been calling me for a month complaining and asking for help for her husband but not for her. Social Services got called by a neighbor and she was told to clean up the house and that she may be taken from the home. They told me she was incompetent and that Power of Attorney wouldn't work that I needed to file for conservatorship for both of them. Neither of them have any other family. Problem is I'm out of state and I was told by a lawyer I can't have it if I live out of state. Some lady has "befriended" my mother and I'm afraid talked her into getting an attorney and refusing my calls. I don't understand how she can get an attorney if she's "incompetent" and why I can't get conservatorship. This lady is going to bleed my mother for all she's got and I don't know how to stop it.